Today is the anniversary of my nieces death

She was four when diagnosed with cancer. Sometimes she was in remission but not for long. She died unexpectedly from a tumor in her brain. I didn’t get to see her before she passed. I knew she was in the hospital the day before but I couldn’t see her because my kids were sick. My brother in law called me saying she was on life support. I was there when they shut it off. She died when she was thirteen, she would have been sixteen now. I always hoped she would live longer, so in my mind I denied it.

My sister stopped talking to my parents and me the year before. But that night we gathered together and grieved. I guess some good came out of it. It’s been a struggle to even breathe today. How do you move on?

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I’m so very sorry @anon78876561. I wish There was something I could say to help you feel better. If you need to vent, you know you can to me.

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I’m so sorry. I don’t think you ever really move on from something like that.

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I’m sorry to hear this.

Very sad story.

I really can’t offer much in the way of advice,

But I’ll be thinking about you, friend.

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I’m so sorry. I can see how much you loved her and how much you’re hurting. I wish there was someway I could take that pain from you. But for now you’ll have to hold onto that love the best you can.

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I’m really sorry. That’s so tragic.

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I’m so sorry. Not right when kids get sick and pass away. Sending you ((hugs))

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Far too soon. Condolences.

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I’m sorry @anon78876561

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I’m so sorry you lost her so young. How horrible. I hope you find some comfort while you grieve. Treat yourself and be kind to yourself.

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There should be grief support groups for free. Call 211. They ask for your zip code. You just tell them what you need assistance with. They give you contact hours and phone numbers, so have paper and pen handy.

Good luck, @anon78876561. It’s always more difficult to lose a child.

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So sorry, @anon78876561 No one loves more than what’s in one’s own family. I never had any children and I would feel terrible if something were to happen to one of my two nieces.

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Thank you everyone. She was precious to me because I was diagnosed with schizophrenia that year and I spent much time with her as she grew up. It was heartbreaking. She was a beautiful soul, always happy even though she was fighting for life.

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So sorry for your loss @anon78876561.

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