So I’ve had problems with multiple neighbors. Some of it is real, some of it is not. I finally got my sister to understand the situation. When I complain about the neighbors, all along the few people around me tell me I’m paranoid and delusional but they all agree there is something going on, that a little of it is true.
At the meeting with my case worker I finally got my sister to understand. I imagine a lot of problems but the neighbors do stuff to bug me. Then I react by hitting the wall or stomping on the floor and then they react and it escalates. That’s it in a nutshell. When I react to them, then it escalates and they’ll do stupid sht back. I’m usually reacting to them though. If they never did stupid sht then I wouldn’t react though some of the time I’m wrong.
Well, my sister and her boyfriend bought a house up in Bend, Oregon and the plan was for me to move up there, maybe even live with my sister and her boyfriend. But at this meeting with my case worker my sister springs two things on me. Firstly, she doesn’t want me living with them because she is afraid I’ll have the same problems with them that I have with my neighbors and she doesn’t want to get in that situation with me where we end up hating each other. Secondly, she put doubt on me living up there at all.
She says, down here at least I have a job and I probably wouldn’t find one as near accommodating as my present one. At my present job I have the hours I want and I work the days I want and I don’t have to start until late and I’m able to leave early (10:00 am-2:00 pm). Plus I have paid vacation and sick leave.
I planed on retiring and moving up there but my sister is worried that I will isolate and do nothing all day, which I’m pretty much doing here. This all came as a big surprise to me, I thought me and her was a 100% sure I was moving up there, now there’s doubts. When she moves away I will have no family here, my stepmom and my stepdad would be my nearest family and they’re each 200 miles away and my stepdad has already practically cut off me and my sisters (my real parents died years ago) and I never visit my stepmom, maybe once every three years.
So, the property manager was fed up with neighbors complaining about me and was going to kick me out of my apartment. Three weeks ago we held a meeting with her, me, my therapist, my case manager, my counselor and my sister. Everybody pled my case and I behaved and the property manager was very impressed with how the meeting went and it was friendly and I promised I would make some changes.
Namely, to stay in my apartment, I absolutely can not slam drawers or hit the wall, even once. I have to get my injection every three weeks instead of four, I have to take a prn of seroquel, and I had to go to anger management class. Then when I met with my case worker and my sister three days ago I had to make more changes. And that’s my plan.
I figure if I implement these new changes and show my sister I can get along with neighbors and roommates without freaking out and do everything I promised in good faith, that she will let me live with them. I can hope anyways.
So I have to download a breathing/meditation app and use it, I have to go to a support group, starting today, for three weeks in a row, I have to tack upon two signs on my bedroom door: BREATHE and MUST KEEP MY HOUSING, I have to get out of the house more and call the after-hours helpline when I get agitated or upset. I have to do all these things but I figure it shouldn’t be a problem because they take time, but I have nothing but time.
And I figure if I show good faith and behave normally for the following year my sister will have a change of heart and let me move in. It sounds like a lot to do but I think I can do it. And like my sister said in the meeting, I’m doing a lot of things right. I’m managing my money, taking care of all my doctors appointments, I shop, cook and clean the apartment, I go over her house once a week for dinner and I get out a few times a week and drive and take car of my car.
So this is where I’m at, it’s not all doom and gloom, I’m pretty calm right now and well fed, the apartment is clean, I have plenty of time to take a shower and go to the group. My life has not changed a lot, I just have to refrain from making noise and do a few new things. This is where I’m at.