I’m going crazy here. It happened again. Yesterday I woke up at 4:30 AM and headed to the bathroom, when I stumbled upon a shoe and kicked it towards our common wall not on purpose of course. So I pee and go back to the living room. 2 minutes later I hear two loud bangs coming for the nearby apartment. It scared me to Hell, then another bang on the wall, this one knocked open my medicine cabinet and all my medication containers were thrown onto the floor.
He’s not leaving me a chance, I did nothing, I’m tip-toeing all the time and he’s just rash and hateful.
This is what I don’t understand, I’ve been arrested for being a danger to myself or others on paper while not even having a police record to my name. But when someone like him clearly shows that he is a threat and unstable nobody lifts a finger to help or have him committed.
I guess I don’t know where to look for sympathy anymore, my parents brush it off as him being in the right because I’m home all the time, and I’m being paranoid supposedly etc… They’re starting to see that something is wrong but they are old and can’t do much.
I’m being on high alert right now, I’m wearing ear plugs to ignore the sounds coming from his end of the block. I’m seeing my pdoc on the 23rd, it’s frustrating to no end having to just endure bad behavior from someone with no outside help.
Yep, it’s kinda funny actually, people here usually move out on July 1st so I’ll wait till then and if not I’ll convince my parents to let me find another place. I hate having to leave this place as the rent is cheap and it’s a good emplacement but this situation is playing tricks on my mental health…
Thank you my friend. I’m smiling like an idiot right now thinking how this could escalate. I have to take a step back like you say, I had the interview for the game design course by the way… They interviewed 38 people and are taking 30, so got a good chance of being accepted. Just waiting on their phone call.
Not trying to belittle you at all, here is a question I ask myself when I have had similar feelings: What am I afraid of? What is making me feel unsafe? I cannot know how you are feeling but it sounds to me like you’re experiencing a bit of paranoia. Also I have read that loud sounds tend to affect us from time to time, especially if they are abrupt and not surprising. Being home all the time can be tough on anyone’s mind. The way I see it is, I tend to find my house to be the most comfortable place where I feel most safe, other places do not often feel that way. It wasn’t always this way, it’s almost like living in a box. It gets to the point where my comfort zone is my house. Suppose I should start going out a bit more. Not judging you in the least bit, only trying to relate and possibly find a solution. Perhaps, you should try accompanying your parents when they leave the house once in awhile. Aside from that, know that people are very rarely out to get you, though sometimes they may react to a sufferer differently if they have ever seen us a bit off. Sometimes they can be downright mean. I find it highly unlikely that the person in the nearby apartment is specifically banging on something or the wall at 4:30 AM to annoy or scare you unless you are speaking loudly at that hour or have television/music on at a loud volume. Sorry if I came off as too frank.
SoitGoes brings up an excellent point, try not to think about it. Best wishes, hope you find a solution.
As I said, I kicked a shoe while walking in the dark and it landed on our common wall. His response was to punch the wall hard three times and once so hard that my medicine cabinet flew open and stuff got thrown on the ground. Kind of an over-the-top response from him don’t you think?
You can place the blame on paranoia all you want, I am being paranoid because someone is targeting me and making my life a living Hell. Only I am the only one stupid enough to stick around while all the other neighbors moved out, just because I love the place. It’s alright, though, I wouldn’t expect you to understand, thanks for the well wishes.
Do not feel stupid for deciding to stick around. Sounds like your neighbor just has a bad temper when it comes to noises coming from his neighbor. I may not know what you are feeling exactly though I can understand the sentiment that comes with feeling like someone is targeting me, and it may very well be the case for you. Paranoia is one of those funny things… once in awhile people really do treat us badly, do things to make us feel uncomfortable, or give us strange looks yet anytime we try to mention it, it is just the paranoia. Sounds like this may be the case. It does sound like an over-the-top response from him. Once again I have to say SoitGoes gave very good advice, try not to think about it. I might add, try not to let it make your life a living hell. Everyday there are a few bad moments, do not let them become bad days. Cheers.
Thank you @ilovethaifood. I love Thai food too, especially pad thais. I was a bit annoyed in my reply and you took it in a calm and gentle way, so I’m really glad for that.
One’s capacity to redirect the ship when new information surfaces bodes well for their recovery. I don’t blame you for ether kicking the shoe or reacting to the neighbor’s reactions. I’d be careful about making loud noises at 4:30 am in a cheap flat, though. The neighbors are more likely to… react.
Haha, yes, it’s true. It was an accident, but compared to the noise I made his reaction was easily ten-fold. I need to either let it go, or forfeit myself, acknowledge I’ve been vanquished and go somewhere else. But that’s the easy route, and not so easy when you think of all the complications moving out entails.
Although thank you for making me laugh. I’m slowly starting to feel better about this whole ordeal.
Glad to be helpful. Off topic- Though not necessarily exclusively a thai cuisine I must recommend sweet mango sticky rice (usually has a bit of coconut milk as well as some seeds that I cannot remember exactly [not the huge mango pit worry not lol]) if you ever see it on the menu!
I wrote a lengthy e-mail to one of the building managers detailing the situation after our last encounter but did not get a reply… I should ask for the complaints’ department contact info me thinks,
My mother offered to talk to him for me, but this dude has a tendency for violence and I would hate seeing my mom being berated by him. I’ll just wait it out until July 1st.
I had a lovely Thai red curry with pumpkin and chicken the other day, it was great.
But yes, I have lived in flats with thin walls as well, it always annoyed me a lot when people on the other side started having noisy sex. But I think I was lucky with the neighbours after those, I almost never heard them.