I’ve hated this guy since 2011 after he moved in, and he lives 2 houses down from me. We got into a feud after I overheard him say that he was going to kill my dog. It was when the symptoms to my paranoid schizophrenia started to kick in. But I’m certain he said it, he yelled it out to his wife while they were getting drunk. I started to have audio hallucinations about a month after he said it. Anyway, he talks a lot of crap. He’s in the Navy and he has a sailor’s mouth. I didn’t know how to find respect for this guy. We then got into a heated argument where he pulled a gun on me. The guy was almost 40 and I’m 21 at this time, and he’s walking around my neighborhood with a gun. I don’t know who was dumber at the time. What angers me the most about all of this, is that he was there when my illness arose, and that he contributed to my paranoia, a suicide attempt, and my first hospital visit. I just wish he would move, but I know he won’t.
Same here, I don’t live in a House so he’s right next-door. What happened is I had a really nice girl as a neighbor, but one night a friend came over and he started playing drums, I had to take out my bed which was broken for the trash, so I kept the door open with my friend hammering away on the drums. It was in the middle of the night, I thought he’d stop by himself but he didn’t. I think it really made her mad, that’s why when she moved out she chose the most suspicious guy she could find and now I’m stuck with him. In other words I was a bad neighbor once and have to pay the price for my stupidity or having irresponsible friends. I really wish she’d stayed now, but with the complex always smelling like pot I see why she didn’t want to. I hate myself for doing that one mistake… Other than that we had a good relationship, having BBQ’s on the terrace and whatnot!
I’ve had a few ‘neighbor feuds’ LOL, and the rumor monger neighbors, as well as a guy in the past who walked around with guns.
The best thing to do is keep to yourself if neighbors are a problem…better accomplished when the neighbors houses aren’t close to you, but if you are in a city or suburban type place, or even in a small town with the neighbor right next to you, it’s more difficult.
This isn’t cool at all…especially if the problem neighbor is in the same building you are, or right next door where you have to run into them every time you walk out your door !
THIS is cool…now if you live in a place like this or your closest neighbor is this far or farther away, things are much better…can still have neighbor problems but you can control how much contact you have… my closest neighbor is probably this far away and can’t even see any of the neighbors houses from my property from spring to mid fall…can barely see them even in winter unless I go to the edge of my property.
ok this is what I have learned when I was a child I was brought up in a violent household so for my own safety I had learnt to be “on guard” for any potential acts of violence or abuse.
the reason we have problems with our neighbours (as schizophrenic) I think is because we are paranoid by nature and do not always trust others.
people are people and theyre bloody noisy and annoying at times but so ARE WE.
TRY TO BE AS NICE AS HUMANLY possible to your neighbours.
it will just make YOUR life easier.
we are looking out for potential threats where often there is non.
Oh my God I really needed to hear that @dandydinmot, I think you are right on all counts. I’m scared of him, but as he said I have my faults and so does he, as long as we’re not bothering each other then we might be able to co-exist, as we have for the past 2 years without any REALLY major incident. It’s just sometimes I feel he thumps on my walls on purpose because he just hates me, but most of the time it’s alright with noise. We are civil when we greet each other, it’s just that I’ve seen him turn into a really aggressive person once and that stuck.
where I used to live I heard my neighbours talking about me but when I moved I still heard the same voices so I knew that it was ME my mental illness but I do know where your coming from its a weird situation isn’t it living so close to strangers. but you know you can call the police at any time if he does become aggressive no ones allowed to pull a gun on you or touch you in any way.
The fact that he has a gun makes it a good idea to humor him. I don’t know what the gun laws are where you live, but when he threatened you with the gun he probably committed a crime. He sounds like the type of guy who shouldn’t have a gun - a real George Zimmerman type. Keep your dog up so he doesn’t have any excuses. Somebody needs to investigate if his gun is legal. I would do it carefully - behind his back.
He’s not as close to me as your neighbor is close to you, so I think you got it worse than me. But I think if you just play it cool you’ll be fine. Two years without trouble is a long time to forget things but from experience it doesn’t take much to have incidents stick to you, considering we all live in the same place. I guess all we can do is be adults and “live and let live”.
Thanks, I agree. I’m gonna try to give you my perspective on your issue from the tidbits I read. I go with the principle that people are free to say whatever they want when I’m around, as long as you don’t confront them about it, empty threats or rude comments should go in one ear and out the other. When I was psychotic I went to walk in a park at night and there was a group of guys drinking beer, when I passed along they said “We’re gonna rob you” but I just continued on my way and nothing happened. Same thing with the gun issue, I don’t know how you managed to extricate yourself out of this one but when someone pulled a gun on me when I was 17 I became agitated and motioned towards him in a menacing manner and in the end I got shot twice in the head. Not lying. Didn’t faint, just ran back to the car.
We’ll always have conflicts, if the guy has a gun he’s worried for his own safety, you said it best, live and let live, there are things you can change and things you can’t, we can only learn to know the difference between acting on impulses and having a calm, reasoned demeanor…
Hi im new and just reading this makes me feel better as im not the only one.But on the subject ive had really bad neighbors that were like gangster drug dealers and this was about 18 yrs ago when I first started hearing voices.Since i’ve thought i had neighbors that were actually trying to drive me nuts by making derogatory comments and banging on the walls but in retrospect I think it was just in my head.ive also heard people make comments when I walk by but I dont think they were real either.
I’ve solved problems with people by learning not to talk to anyone I don’t know.
I know that sound harsh but in the past 2 year in parking lots at stores someone tried to scam me by pushing my cart into a car and claiming damage that was large enough to definitely be a car and a ran and caught the cart any way but I can’t deal with lying scammers.
Then some one in a Home Depot lot talked me into pulling a dent out. I had my husband for support but scammers can think faster than me and made things much worse.
So my solution is to talk to NO one in real life. Which is maybe why I’ve been coming here because I was doing ok and let my guard down and now I trust NO One.
