It’s embarrassing to tell other people about things that happened over years ago yet I still talk about them. Anyone else like this? Sometimes I have crying spells and everything comes back. Lately I’ve been thinking about my ex and it’s frustrating because I just want to move on with life. Anyone have any tips with moving on? How did you cope with the feelings? Thanks guys! I don’t know why I feel like this sometimes 
Every time I forget about her, then she pops up in my dreams and I long for her again. I haven’t wanted her for a while though. Really you gotta meet someone new that blows him/her out of the water for you to truly forget about them. Even then it’s still hard because things always seem better in hindsight.
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I’ve tried finding someone new but they turned out to be…not as I thought. (Sexual freak) but hopefully I get to find someone new. I was thinking about that but I didn’t want to hop from person to person you know? But seriously, thanks for the advice! 
Also I’m happy you are in a much better state!
I’ll always have feelings for my ex and that’s just how it is. I think it’s normal… doesn’t mean you want that part of your life back, just means that you love what you had and you’ve accepted what was. life goes on and new love will come. 
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I find water balloons from up high reduce worry and help me laugh at new sorry suckers to cross my path
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I have that too. stuck on past issues for nothing… not worth a minute… so just you need to replace the negative with new positive things… the only way out for me
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Yea. I remember a girl from 25 years ago. If its not a water balloon day i think of her. I think there’s a reason her and i were together … It drives me to better myself
@HuckFinn @sleepybug @eyeofRa thanks guys!! 
I sometimes forget that I’m not alone in this and that its natural. I just have to replace the old with the new!
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Time sometimes helps, other times it just sucks and we’re stuck with feelings for someone for a long time until someone else comes along and it goes to the back of the mind. I found it best to be friends and let time help me.
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Thanks Minnii 
I appreciate it!
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I had a problem with ‘the one that got away’ for years. Eventually it faded.
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well be thankful because even if it wasn’t mutual you felt something true… love is amazing and should be cherished whether it is constant, fleeting… or both or neither or both and neither…
This character you loved probably stands above the rest for reason x or y… it happens… be thankful you were close to it for a while… there are always more folk… as we age we get better… someone will supercede whoever it was in your heart and in your mind.
take care @sunshine…
I typically take my feelings and reduce them to some delusional rationality where I was a winner the whole time and the other was to blame… so that way I might not feel the weaker or used… but it’s just a masking of the pains I used to know over this girl Sarah… the only one that ever hurt me…
so do what you gotta do to make it through… in the end you’re just gonna be glad you felt it… especially after it is replaced.
in lacking love we might sometimes feel that we lack the capacity for love which makes us more inclined to not love ourselves… speculating… but in that state we become desperate and enter the grieving process for a life we once knew and lost… but this is contradictory to growth and construction of our ongoing life as it is a black hole of distraction.
Work on yourself @sunshine find your true virtues inside… whatever they are and work to grow in understanding and capability… love will come back around…
Love and peace 
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Thank you so so much for this! And I agree with the whole mutual thing. I avoided it but it still hurts.
I shall take this time to discover my real capacities and hobbies. I used to do that with the gym but soon failed as I got into my second situation. However I think I should get back to that soon 
I used to do the grandiose personalities too with my alter ego. Believing I was the s@%t 
Guess it doesn’t hurt to bring her along! 
Thank you!
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