For heterosexual males only, who successfully started dating for a long time after having sz? Do you also work? Are you married?

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Sitoo means grandmother. Even in the US someone said back in the days ppl got married underage.

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At what age did your grandmother got married?

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It is currently legal in the US.

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My aunt got married at 17. My grandparents had to sign a paper. My uncle was I think 4 years older than her.

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Marriage legal age varies state by state. Itā€™s left to the states to decide. There is no federal limit on legal age for marriage.

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https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/marriage-age-by-state

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Without parental permission it is 18 in every state except Nebraska which is 19.

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I really donā€™t know. And sheā€™s dead now so I canā€™t ask her. I do know that my momā€™s mother was at least 18 and that was in the late 1940s.

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Go figure that West Virginia would be one of those states where you can marry underage and no wonder the world thinks weā€™re all a bunch of hillbillies

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Wow. Canā€™t wait to read through this if I get the chance.

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Iā€™m just going to chime in because you all know I love a good conflictā€¦

Some women here seem to get annoyed when men talk about their issues with sz that are worse for men. But the fact is that a lot of issues with sz are worse for men, and especially dating (for straight men in particular).

It is easier for a woman with sz to find someone willing to date her. A lot. Which is a large part of the reason why men with sz are much more likely to be single, lonely and abstinent. That doesnā€™t mean dating for women with sz is easy. Not at all. It just means women arenā€™t always the most oppressed of those two genders. And I guess that doesnā€™t sit well with some people. With sz, men do worse in practically all areas. And conversely, this probably leads to some resentment from some men here when they see how many women here do so much better than them.

But let them be a little resentful.

Misogynism is not OK. Simplistic black-and-white evolutionary explanations that blame women for menā€™s unhappiness are not OK. Itā€™s not womenā€™s fault. Itā€™s societyā€™s fault. But being lonely and single and sick and knowing youā€™ll most likely keep being lonely and single and sick for the rest of your life, no matter what you try to do about it, ā– ā– ā– ā– ā– ā– ā–  sucks. I know because Iā€™ve been there. And Iā€™m gay, so I had that going for me. And I was lucky to have good financial support, and some social support, and good treatment opportunities, and I recovered. But a lot of the guys here donā€™t have all that. And they didnā€™t grow up being nurtured to have good social skills, like most girls are growing up, so they might not find it as easy to make friends either.

Be compassionate. A lot of people here have lives that are pretty ā– ā– ā– ā– ā– ā– ā–  horrible a lot (or most) of the time. And itā€™s not a coincidence that most of those people are men.

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I know Iā€™m a giant powder keg but I just wanted to say why I think we should be a little less hard on the guys. Sorry if I derail the thread more @anon67051439.

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Yes that is what i was trying to get at. Mysoginy is an issue. But mysoginy also hurts men. Suicide is the leading cause of death in young men. That is a crisis. Menā€™s mental health matters.

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Anyways, to bring it back on the topic of trying to date, yes it is a challenge. The SZ men on here who are in committed relationships with women mostly have jobs, houses, and can drive.

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Or they met their partner before sz too.

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Trying to work towards those goals can help improve your chances.

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I was with my ex partner for 15yrs but we grew apart and it ended in 2016, there was another girl i met 2018 & i tried my best but it didnt work out :frowning:

I havent worked and both these women were on disability benefits, same as me and it wasnt an issue, my long term partner when i was with her supported me and i supported her.

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When I couldnā€™t work my gf paid for my rent phone and food till I was back on my feet. Thereā€™s good ladies out there my dude

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Hereā€™s a thought.

If you put mental illness aside.

If you were a girl, would you want to date you? What qualities would make you want to.

That prob matters more than the mental health stuffs

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Another factor for why men with schizophrenia are more likely to be single than women with schizophrenia is that the typical age of onset for men is 18, whereas the typical age of onset for women is 28.

Thus I would expect more women to be married than men on this forum.

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