For heterosexual males only, who successfully started dating for a long time after having sz? Do you also work? Are you married?

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For heterosexual males only, who successfully started dating for a long time after having sz? Do you also work? Are you married?

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I want success stories especially if you don’t work and got married.

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I don’t know if this helps or not but I COULD be dating if I chose to but I turned down the offer. I do not work, I am on disability. I am definitely not married.

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Is the other person on disability too or she has a job?

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She had a job until like six months ago. I think she is on unemployment right now.

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I can’t really date as I live with my parents like a kid lol I wish I lived alone, more privacy and more freedom.

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I live with my parents. She invites me over to visit her at her apartment all the time. I usually turn her down though. I usually end up agreeing to it eventually though like maybe 2 or 3 times a year I go over and sit down and have a chat with her. I’ve got her down to just calling me once on Friday now(although sometimes she still calls more)

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My parents friends daughter invited me to have a coffee with her. I refused. My parents told me to ignore her as she’s 4yrs older than me. Before sz my mother tried to hook me up with a girl thats 6yrs younger than me.

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4 years older than you isn’t that bad at all in my opinion.

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I’m not heterosexual, I am bisexual. But I am dating a female and have been for 18 months. I also work as a Peer Support Specialist part time, soon to be full time. I have 2 state certifications related to my job as well

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I also have my own apartment and car

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In our culture we marry girls younger than us, my mother is like 13yrs younger than my father. My cousin’s wife is 15yrs younger than him.

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My mother’s uncle is 25yrs older than his wife lol He died and now his wife is living alone. I think 25yrs difference is too much.

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I’m not succesfull. I could be sort of succesfull if I choose to start my nursing career. In 5 years I could go up to grade 3 chief nurse if I wasn’t afraid i’m incapable.
And I could date too, if I wasn’t afraid of closure and intimacy.

But I don’t /do neither. :unamused: I have a factory job, and I have sex sometimes but it’s not the same…

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Thats not because of cultural traditions though. It’s because Syrian culture is awful to women.

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Ther’s abuse in every culture. My parents have been happily married for over 40 years.

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I don’t think they necessarily meant your parents. And yes there’s abuse in every culture.

My parents were pretty bad parents. But I think the “dating women so much younger” part is connected to a lot of other parts that generally aren’t that good for women, culturally. Which doesn’t mean Syrian culture is all bad or generally worse than other cultures.

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I am not into that but I don’t mind a girl 6yrs younger than me but not more than that.

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There’s nothing inherently wrong with dating younger people, of course.

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I mean, I am a bit biased. My Sitoo was married off at age 14 to a 30 year old. My Syrian relatives told me to “get over it” when I came forward about sexual abuse by relatives as a child. I was told that’s super normal and you just have to suck it up because otherwise you will hurt the family.

And all of them hide behind “well it’s our culture.” No it isn’t. Our culture is hummus and egg wars and language and music and archetecture and philosophy and science. “It’s our culture” is a nasty excuse too many people of many different cultures use to excuse generational abuse.

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