People who have a lot of meaningful relationships with others. Don’t get me wrong I have way more than I ever have now and I’m grateful for that but I still often feel like an outsider at certain places, like work. I know they like me and no one has beef with me that I know of but they all hang out and chit chat like best friends and I’ve been there longer than most of them and have yet to really make many connections. I know that’s a me thing , but I can’t figure it out, and now with how little social motivation I do have, being jealous of other people connecting is a weird confusing feeling
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I used to be jealous, too. Then I learned something: people who have lots of small-talk hang-out relationships don’t have meaningful relationships with most of the people they talk to. A lot of them feel just as jealous of me, for having two friends that I could talk to about anything without fear of judgment.
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Maybe one way to go about it is to be with the older crowd. I’ve been at my job awhile and I connect most with co-workers much older than me. They tend to be more accepting, knowledgeable, and empaths.
I can’t keep up with the younger crowd and they talk about stuff I don’t know, like the newest hip hop artist. Not sure what age demographic you work with, but seeking out friends and allies is very important.
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I envy ppl who have dat good friend they can feel comfortable to text several times a day and vice versa.
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When I was working everyone talked about soccer. I couldn’t relate at all. Felt like an outsider.
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