I deal with alot of it at work and its bringing my down. None of my colleagues like me and i cant escape it
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Jealousy sucks the joy right out of any social interaction. If others are jealous, ignore it since it’s their problem. If you are the one with jealousy, do something to change your mindset since jealousy is a tremendous waste of time and energy.
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Its not me its them. I try to make friends with them but they hate me. One of the girls doesnt look at me in the eye and is very short with me. I suspect because im young and still have my life head of me and work hard. I also suspect she talks s h i t about me behind my back and to the other work colleague in her mother tounge. She is also very hostile to me and doesnt treat me the same as everyone else
That sucks your experiencing that. Hope it improves.
I very rarely feel jealous about anything. I dont really have that competitive mindset that a lot of other people seem to have. I just want to get by and have good times when i can. And find as much meaning and purpose in life as i can while I’m here.
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But what have i done to her for her to be like that? She doesnt want anything to do with me it seems?
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People are largely crap. Ive noticed if you seem interested in people liking you they will be cool and indifferent. If you are cool and indifferent they become more friendly. I wouldnt be concerned with what othet people think about you, they are wrong, just do what you have to do
I feel bad when someone doesnt seem to like me too. But if you havent done anything wrong. Its probably just her own issues. We cant control what other people think and feel. If you feel calm and assertive enough, maybe try asking her politely if she thinks youve done something wrong or if theres any way you two could get along better for the sake of the job or business. If theres animosity between co-workers, i think it can make the work environment suffer. I mean you are definitely affected by it. It could inpact your satisfaction with the job.
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Instead of assuming your co-workers behavior is somehow about you, have you considered assuming the exact opposite – that your co-workers behavior has nothing to do with you? That mIndset would free you from your co-worker’s behavior impacting you at all.
We learned the difference between jealousy and envy in my DBT group.
Jealousy is when someone is threatening to take a very important and desired relationship or object away from you.
Envy is when another person has what you want or need but don’t have.
No one was jealous of me not that I know of when I was having a better I feel more private life, when I had my own mind. But people being jealous of you doesn’t really make any sense and it’s not a good thing.
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I used to think people were jealous of me, parts of my early delusions that kept getting worst into persucatory.
Working with paranoia is very hard.
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Me too, in my mind, a person won’t leave me alone even though I tell him to, and I feel like he keeps watching me and I think because he is somehow jealous of me like how I look or he got upset when I told him to leave me alone.
I’m jealous and paranoid 
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I am sorry you are dealing with that. I just want to validate your feelings and say that jealousy is a real thing and people attack other people because of jealousy. I have always said “jealousy is the Devil”
My best, unsolicited advice, is to do the best you can at work and know, in your soul, that it isn’t you, it’s them. All my best to you 
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