Feeling like a burden

While I’ve been in bed all day today my mom went out and got groceries but there was an accident and she’s trapped across the bridge with a car full of groceries. This makes me feel like I’m not doing anything worthwhile, despite feeling really sick (gastroparesis) and Im tired of feeling like such a loser while everyone else in my family gets through school and their jobs and whatnot and I literally can’t do anything.

Really hoping I win my social security case next month because Im just going to give all the money to my parents.

hi carleygee I have read some of your other posts and sounds to me like you have been doing something very worthwhile indeed eg giving up drugs.
When you do this you can be emotionally vulnerable as all you emotions come flooding back.
also don’t rush thing its going totake some time other people don’t have schizophrenia you are doing you bst with the tools you’ve been given youll figure it all out in time tc

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Can I use this phrase in reference to a woman? “Every dog has it’s day”. You pay your dues NOW and put up with crap NOW and pray it pays off in the future. That’s awful good of you to want to help out your parents with money. And just the fact that you are worrying about being a burden shows you have a conscience and good intentions. Two admirable traits.
Me? I just got in an argument/yelling match with some 50 or 60 year old man. He’s just a neighbor. I WANT to be nice but I’m a dying breed. Anyway, you’re not a loser. You have an illness and it is not your fault that you have it. We got dealt bad cards. Lay the groundwork now and try to co-operate in your own recovery. Try not to fight the people who are going to try to help you. All these therapists and psychiatrists who we complain about have good intentions.They are in the people business. Every psychiatrist probably honestly likes people and they at least STARTED OUT in this business with the desire to help people. Of course, I don’t know your whole situation but we all go through bad spells and ruts.Your stomach problems are horrible. “When it rains it pours”. I couldn’t imagine going through what you’re going through. You’ve got some mighty big mountains to climb and overcome.
My advice to you: Don’t be too hard on yourself.

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we are as heavy is the baggage we carry

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we are instant gratification peoples lol someone actually said this to me in AA
Dandydinmot your going to have to wait.

Tends to be much more socially acceptable for a woman to still live with her parents then a male. Your also only what? Like 20 now. I’m thinking your being a bit hard on yourself to be honest but totally understand where your coming from. Not sure what the answer for you is. For me it was finding a place of my own.

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There is a time to give, and a time to take.
When you have to take, accept it gracefully, knowing it is just temporary, and some day you will be on the other side when you are able to give and help in return.
Nothing wrong with accepting help, as long as you don’t begin to believe you are entitled to take without repayment of some kind.

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