My ex contacted me. Things ended really badly. She said nasty hurtful things that hit my insecurities. I miss the good times, but I don’t miss the abuse and manipulation. She seemed nice today and she promised things would be better this time. She wanted to meet up but I said no. I’m still too hurt. Did I make the right decision? I think I did. Maybe I just need some comfort.
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Yes,
You did the right thing.
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Exes are exes for a reason. Sounds like you made the right decision.
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You’re the only one that can make that call. Sounds like your gut is telling you something
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People rarely change their behavior long term. When they do, it is rarely with the person they have already established an abusive relationship with. I think you made the right call. It is easy to act nice until someone gives you another chance. It is much harder to keep up that behavior after you already have what you want. Abusive relationships tend to go in those cycles. Someone acts nice and sweet, then you fall for them, then they act worse and worse until you finally leave them, then they act all sweet and swear it will never happen again, then you give them another chance, and it starts over again.
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You’re right, this cycled a few times before already. But it makes me sad because I want someone to make me nice promises and to keep them. I guess it’s reminding me I don’t have that. Feeling sad now 
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It’s certainly not meant to be harsh, but is it not better to feel sad for what you haven’t found just yet, then suffer the abuse of this person again and wind up even sadder?
I know it’s tough right now, I feel for you. I’m sure we’ve all being there
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Yes maybe it is good to feel sad now and not sad later. You’re right.
Thank you everyone commenting for supporting me
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I think you did the right thing, you deserve better.
Here’s a (((hug))).
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You absolutely made the right decision.
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The only way to find that is by staying away from the person who you know won’t provide it, and continuing to look elsewhere.
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Do what you feel is right, its not the end of the world, you can always change your mind 
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