I'm Finally Done With Her! ( Toxic Ex )

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I always see the good and fail to recognize the bad. Surely you can be good again. Surely you’ll grow and learn but a 60 year old women aint learning anytime soon.

It’s heartbreaking because I’ve been a good friend and get dumped on constantly and I’m still there and available when I have other needs. Anyways. It’s done. I can’t save this person and fantasy relationships are more important than real ones for her. Should be a sign but I suspect it’s almost lo bipolar but is a good manipulator so never gets addressed.

Cost me too much mentally and financially and I don’t know why I even tried. Well. They gave me a break a long time ago when I needed it and I pay back but even I have limits.

Sad but I need to do it for my life and development. I tried but need to let it go…Sometimes no matter how hard you try you can’t save some people from themselves…

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It’s not your job to save people. A person at that age should know better but if she still manipulates and doesn’t take responsibility for her own happiness then you are doing right by having boundaries.

I don’t know the whole story. But some people are as you say, living a fantasy life, feeling entitled and believing that the world owes them.

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Yeah. It’s so hard to let go of some people especially those who manipulate others so easily. It has taken me a long time to realise it’s not a relationship even with others if it’s not one where you gain something. You can’t keep giving and have others keep taking. And yes. I can’t save this person no matter how hard I try! Much peace.

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I have the same problem…

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Personally, I look at the world through rose-colored glasses.

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sorry man, you’re doing the right thing…had to leave a bipolar woman once…hardest thing I ever did.

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My ex wife was toxic and abusive.
She has borderline and was a thief, liar and a cheater.

I hope you are not giving your ex money @rogueone

I think what you are doing by breaking off ties with her is a good solution

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I had a bad breakup with a girlfriend a long time ago. At the time I didn’t see how bad she was for me and I got manipulated out of a little money and whatnot.

But for a long time now, I have understood we weren’t good for each other. No regrets at all that it ended.

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Maybe manipulating others makes you bad, maybe that makes you good.
You can take that one with you buddy
maybe its something like, Youve (if that`s a word) come far and I will pull you back.

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I’m sorry you had to let her go.
Also, tommorow you’ll be tempted to call and you will miss here.
I’ve gone through that, and…
Ok I’ll be honest. I know you are cancer in horoscope, like me.
We are known for returnings.
In ten days you’ll be like “Maybe she’s not that bad”…
I don’t have advice, I tend not to go through emotional connections…
My heart is with you…

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