my Chilean friends who i met before i had bad schizophrenia are moving to my country. I have gained 30 or 40 kgs and basically would be considered a loser because i have like no friends, don’t work and have a horrible reputation. I am also paranoid about why they are coming over. But I guess that i should just try to make the most of it ?.. im so embarrased about being a failure
edit: ‘to’ to ‘no’
never mind, they’re lovely people, i look forward to seeing them again, i just wish i was a better person
Maybe it would be good to send them a letter explaining that they might not recognize you and give a comfortable explanation of what to expect so that they won’t fear the first encounter.
thats a good idea, thanks
they said “we remember you with a lot of care” and are being lovely and supportive
Regarding weight gain, I also gained weight.
I’m trying a new thing where I avoid mirrors.
I also remind myself I (and others) am an animal with a unique look, not a clone of some supermodel. And that is okay because diversity feels good
I hope the visit goes well. If it helps you, you could tell them you are feeling nervous, but if you feel that may make things more awkward, perhaps just try to be brave and enjoy it because you are not actually a loser
Are you a bad person because you gained some weight? Don’t judge yourself for that.
I totally understand. I’m going through something similar.
All we can do is be kind and go in with a positive attitude and hope for the best.
It’s going to be hard, but it can be done.
Hey! i do the avoiding mirrors thing occasionally too! i did it to deepend my spiritual practise / take away the distraction of vanity. good idea <3
thanks, yeah. i’m actually feeling pretty good today, some kind of magical peace feeling, i think its from meditation and the change in weather… good luck with your meet up…
I’m not saying that you are ugly. Because you are not ugly. But if u get negative thoughts from looking in the mirror, it’s a strategy that can help sometimes at least for me it does.
I’m glad you’re feeling good today
oh yeah, i think it helps me get my focus off looks; getting rid of the mirror. I used to look better than I do now, so i’m always expecting to see my old face, and it isn’t there. But it doesngt really matter. I would get ride of my mirror but i like lookoing in the mirror when i brush my teeth and hair. maybe i’ll use it just for that and take it down the rest of the day.
thankyou! hope you are feeling good too <3
there! put the mirror out of sight! my bathroom feels kinder already 
what are you up to today zoe?
Yea I know wat u mean. I still need a mirror just to check I’m not sprouting new hairs on my face and no ketchup on my nose lol. Good to look but maybe not too much.
@DNAsaur I was at a support group. I was feeling really sleepy thou so it wasn’t too exciting.
But new girl there who was cool.
How about you?
Any plans? Ps… My day is ending.
oh yeah, i hear ya about ketchup on face. i always end up with food on my face. oh nice, i’m glad you meet a cool nice girl at the support group. I dunno, im lazy but i feel maybe with this meditation created peace,i could do a big ish bike ride this morning…
Sounds nice :)) hope there’s good weather for it.
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