Another day another problem. The apartment is a bit messy. It not all my fault but her parents feel that I should be the only one cleaning. problem is I get so over whelmed with cleaning. I cant do it piece by piece little by little because her parents check on me every few minutes and criticize how i’m doing. I’m terrible at organizing. they yell at me which makes my anxiety worse. Then they keep kay over at their side of the house doing their chores but i’m not allowed to ask for help. Some times I just sit on the bed and cry.
Is there a rule in the universe that says you must stay there?
You might find some help in these therapies, as all of them, in various ways, help people see their rules and how those rules may be hurting them.
REBT – Rational emotive behavior therapy - Wikipedia
Schematherapy – Schema therapy - Wikipedia
MBBT – An Introduction to Mind-Body Bridging & the I-System – New Harbinger Publications, Inc
10 StEP – Pair A Docks: The 10 StEPs of Emotion Processing
Could you move out if you wanted to, would finances allow ???
They supposedly need us to help with the bills, and they are taking 700 dollars from me and 250 from my partner each check. The finances are pretty much just go to them and we don’t have a car so how will my partner get to work. Neither one of us has a license and I’m terrified to drive. Besides she wants to stay until she gets her RN degree and that will take 3 years then another two years to work off the degree cost through the nursing home then she says we can move.
950 dollars is alot from both of you when they are not being respectful to you. Do you have to pay for your own food?
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Sometimes but they usually just wait until my food stamps come and they spend all of that. Last time they didn’t even get me coffee creamer or sugar. My partner felt bad about getting a tablet for Christmas from her parents so she leased to own a computer for me. It’s only 36 dollars a pay check but then her parents decided to get a big screen tv and then her dad bitched about it and so now my partner is paying for both the tv and the computer which equals 146 dollars a month. They get away with some much because my partner is desperate to keep them happy.
Sounds like when you do leave one day they are going to have a big shock.
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you are a human being who deserves kindness and respect.
there are many bullies in this world…we all need to stand up to them.
some are passive aggressive bullies…
some play mind games…
but you need to stand your ground.
do a chore chart…e.g…
…the bedroom one day
…and list the chores in the room
so you dust…vacuum etc…so you can tick them off as you go
do this for each room.
then you have proof of what you have done…
and saves you getting confused.
i write lists all the time …everyday.
i respect you, stay strong.
know someone cares 
take care 
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Sounds like you need to move.
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Man, I feel bad for you cbbrown. No one should be treated the way you are treated by theses people. I’ve been treated horribly in the past and I know how demoralizing it is.
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This hurts me. I don’t like my living situation either, but I’m getting out soon. Is there any light at the end of the tunnel for you? You need less stress in your life. Somehow, I get the feeling that there is something forcing you to stay there - something we’re not privy to, and that’s okay. Have a virtual (((HUG))). If I could change things for you, I would. Hang in there, fellow warrior.
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I’m so sorry you have to stay in this situation. 950 bucks will get you a decent place in Seattle. With a good bus/train system… you don’t need a car.
I hope you can move out soon since these people do nothing but criticize.
Wishing things get better for you soon
thanks everyone, I feel better knowing people care. My partner tries to make things easier for me by helping me when she can. usually that’s early in the morning or late at night on days she doesn’t work. She works third shift so i’m often alone at night.
as usual, that just sucks for you and Kay. I can’t believe how piggish your in laws are.
There’s some real discomfort in my living arrangement as well.
Jayster
Gosh,time just couldn’t go fast enough for that situation to be over.
Sorry you have to go through this.
(((Hцgs tö Уοц)))
Our most recent argument is over a doughnut. There were doughnuts sitting out so I ate one an hour after dinner. They got crabby with me they informed me they are their little girls doughtnuts and I couldnt finish dinner but I could eat a doughnut. They talk all the time that their little girl needs to lose weight yet they buy her sweets like doughnuts. My father in law was real pissed off and my mother in law said she didn’t care.