Im not dating anyone but I’m ready to. I just don’t know how or if to tell them. I’m always afraid to tell ppl.
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I’ve been diagnosed with sz since me and my partner got together. My original diagnosis was bipolar and I was honest about that from the start.
I think being up front about having a serious mental health condition with a new partner is a good way of sorting the wheat from the chaff. Mr biscuit has always been supportive and has helped me stay out of hospital on a couple of occasions.
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I dont have a partner, but when im dating i always (at a certain point) tell them i have a sensitivity to psychosis. I think you cant and shouldnt withhold such important info from a partner. I always first give little hints and then tell bit by bit when i feel comfortable enough.
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My fiancé is a huge part of my support system. She know my triggers, and has seen me fully psychotic. She accepts me for who I am, illness and all.
I started out just telling her I had a brain thing, and I was a little weird. As time went on I told her about the voices, and the delusions. It evolved organically
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When my husband and I were dating, I wasn’t yet diagnosed with schizoaffective or PTSD. I had a lot of delusions at the time but didn’t know they were delusions. I was unstable and all I knew was that I was “different” and had trauma. I first told my husband that I had trauma but didn’t tell him details at first.
As time went on, I told him the details. He caught on from the beginning that I was not completely well in the head, though. I said outlandish things at times that upset him. For example, I said that all people in all of California were sluts. This was a major delusion of mine at the time. But he loved me dearly anyway.
As more time passed, I got more and more ill. We fought a lot when I was completely psychotic and unstable. I was starting fights based on my delusions that he was unfaithful. But he still loved me and stuck through it.
I was finally diagnosed as psychotic when I was 23. We started dating and got married when I was 21. Took a long time to get my diagnosis. But it explained a lot and we both realized I had been psychotic our entire relationship, to varying degrees.
My point in telling you my story is: if they truly care about you, tell them a little at a time and they’ll continue to love you regardless of your mental issues.
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As people are posting here in this thread it’s possible to find someone who understands.
I’m very jaded and I have a lot of problems when it comes to dating. From my looks to lack of income at my age. My mental illness is just the cherry on top of a pile of crap.
I’m an exception though, plenty of people find love who have mental illness. It may take a bit longer to find the right one but its completely possible.
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The diagnosis came up on the first date with my wife.
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I hide nothing.
I am totally exposed:
I am single, schizophrenic, impotent, am off any medications.
I am also a “fitness freak” who exercises many hours every day.
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They called my wife in for a meeting when they first told me my diagnosis. So she found out when I did. There were two psychiatrists, a physician assistant and a psychiatric nurse in there. My doctor told me your diagnosis is paranoid schizophrenia.
He might as well have been speaking a foreign language because I had no idea what that was. My wife argued with them. Later my shrink let me read the DSM 4 and I didn’t think I had that at the time.
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Yes he does. I met him at the mental health teams walking group.
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I told him when we were talking online in the first few weeks. Before we met.
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I broke up with the partners in my head romantically recently but they hang around as friends of sort. I’ve never had a partner in reality. The former partners in my head didn’t really care about that as you may imagine.
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Wen I was doing online dating I told one or two guys in the first chat… Well not straight away but nearer the end of the chat.
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Yes. Of course he knows I have schizophrenia.
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My partner knows. But I’ve been friends with them a long time we’ve known each other for about 5 years.
I told them about my conditions about 2 years in. They took it surprisingly well.
I’m glad they except me 
But I think it’s definitely important if you’re serious with a partner that you let them know. It’s unhealthy to keep a secret like that in your relationship. Plus it helps them support you
Yes, he knows. His understanding of it is pretty basic, but it’s still important that he knows. I don’t have many symptoms, but when I do have them, it helps that he understands what causes them and how I need to deal with them.
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I kinda feel the same way. I don’t feel like I have much to offer. I have no friends either, so that would be awkward to explain why not. Nobody likes a loner.
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I wish my romantic lovers accepted me the same way. Lucky you. Wish you the best.
Yeah she nudged me for 3 years to go see a psychiatrist again so I finally did. Very thankful for that. She is supportive and understanding
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Yes, my boyfriend knows. He was around when I started getting psychoses for the first time.
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