I wish i can rip their hearts out and feed them to the wolves. Thats how much i hate them. Do you feel the same way with your past abusers. Everytime i think of them it fuels me with so much angry and hate.
I haven’t really been abused,
So I can’t speak to that.
But I don’t hate all the bullies and haters I’ve had.
Most of them sunk their own ship anyway,
No sense in wasting the energy wishing them ill.
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I guess your right. Karma will get them i dont have to do anything. I its still makes me angry. this is how i feel when i workout. at least i can use it in positive way.
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I forgave mine
15
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I’ve ramped it down to strong dislike from active hate. I don’t have to expend energy ruminating over past wrongs. That’s energy I don’t get to use in the present to make my life better.
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good for you, but i will never forgive my abusers, they dont deserve my forgiveness.
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I rarely think about them, but they really hurt me.
When I think about them I am ashamed. This is probably because, like many victims, I felt guilty.
I’d like to be neutral about these thoughts.
I think these people may have caused my current condition.
However, I don’t really feel any hatred.
I know that EMDR can help but I’m not ready to take the plunge. Actually, my therapist suits me well.
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I don’t think of my past or abusers much. I made peace with my past. It’s over and done with. I can’t change it so why ruminate?
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I pray for the people who hurt or continue to hurt me. I learned that from my childhood religion and then when I grew up in 12 steps it was suggested to me again.
It was suggested that I pray the abuser to receive everything good I want for myself in their life. I don’t have to actually be sincere (in the beginning) in the praying but I just have to say/think the prayers. Over time the praying worked for me and anger lifted.
I feel freer [now] having prayed for their “health, happiness, and prosperity.”
This expression helped me get perspective too “anger is the poison I take expecting someone else to die.”
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My old bullies I could care less about.
The neighbor who sexually assaulted me at ten years of age is a different story. I saw him about a year and a half ago in town and he saw me coming and says to me, what the ■■■■ are you staring at?
Him I want to forget about but since he lives ten miles away that is hard to do. Been in therapy the last several years bc of him. I bought pepper spray in case he ever gets too close to me again. I know we’ll meet again.
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Well there was this person who did not treat me well. But I also did not treat them well because I lied a lot to them. Even though I lied out of paranoia, it was still lying.
But nvtl I do not want anything to do with that person anymore.
Would it be fair to dislike that person when I constantly lied to them, and myself actually, Idk.
It is my problem that I did not leave that relationship ASAP too.
Again, paranoia.
So I think me and that person BOTH had problems.
They dislike me and I dislike them and we disliked ourselves too. Big lots of disliking.
This guy and his friend raped me and ruined me for a while I’m over it I’m in a really good place now!
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I hate my present abusers, that’s for sure. They’re evil, self centered, insane liars.
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Omg thats horrible, you need to report that to police.
This depends. I sometimes hate my abusers, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I pray for them, but sometimes I just plain hate them. And sometimes I blame them from giving me mental illness because 100% of my hallucinations are related to my abuse experience. I get flashbacks and chills at night, and I have nightmares of people abusing me.
At this point, I have no idea how to feel about them. I don’t even know where they are and I don’t remember them. But there’s this one girl I remember so clearly that I could pinpoint her if I see her in the streets. She makes me so angry but how will she remember what she did when she was in junior high school?
Hmm. . .
When It Comes To Being Abused.
One Has To Ask Themselves, Am I A Victim?. Or!, Am I Brave Explorer?.
If You Set Your Sights On Overwhelming Your Senses With Horrific Memories. You May Not Be Able To Step Out Of That Irrationally Disgustingly Filthy Metaphorically Dead Building.
In Short, Jus Means…, Why Waste Energy On Those Who Commit Horrific Acts On The Innocent?.
Instead, Drop Your Weapons, Look To The Sky, And Walk Away.
With Such A Short Amount Of Time On Thus Earth. There Are Many, Many, Many Better Things To Focus On. And It Won’t Take Much To Discover How You Can Free Yourself.
The Answer, The True Answer. Waits Inside Of You. Your Mind, Heart, Body, Aura And Energy.
No Need To Spin In Circles Trying To Understand Why.
Sometimes Mystery In The Language Of Trees, As Foundation. Will Be Able To Give You Some Rest.
If Not There, Then It Could Be Jus A Hop, Skip, And A Trot Down Your Personal Dark Pathe.
Although You Might Need A Candle To Light The Way.
~P.s. Hope, Trust, True Love, Honesty, Joy, And Endlessly Eternal Peace!.~ 
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What’s that old saying about holding onto a hot coal? Something like that. Not healthy to hold on to hate for anyone, just forgive and forget. Unless they’re still in your lives, then you gotta stand up for yourself.
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Yea your right i guess.
I don’t hate.
I just feel disgust and nausea
upon seeing my father or upon hearing him
on the phone.
I literally wanna throw up
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Yes I hate someone with a passion I was gonna drive over n kill him but changed my mind its not worth going to jail for. forgive your enemy love thy neighbour