i try really hard not to go down the line of hatred on anyone. someone in my life hurt me sooo badly in the past i am angry still. but i know i don’t hate her – it is just anger.
i hate what she did to me. it was such horrific violence and i was extremely young at the time.
she doesn’t get it. she got punished at the time and feels i owe her for that.
i just know she is emotionally very unwell. she can’t even resolve that.
judy
I don’t really hate people anymore. I think it requires too much energy. My stepdad has been really rough to me but if I spend energy actively hating him, it’s only making my life less enjoyable. Better just to forget about him and focus on my new surroundings in California.
I think that the less energy you give to the people you don’t care for, the better.
I’m trying to move past some grudges against toxic family members who don’t deserve the space in my head. I’ve finally discarded grudges against toxic ex-coworkers but I was also exposed to them way less than the aforementioned family members. Gonna take a while to get to where I want to be regarding this issue but I’m committed to the journey.
I think the whole “we have to forgive and love everyone regardless of what horrible things they did to us” is BS. If you don’t want to forgive them, don’t. Sometimes the things people do are simply unforgivable and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with acknowledging that.
i agree with you anna. i was pressured to forgive someone who didn’t deserve it at all. and i did.
sometimes i want to run it back so to speak . because it isn’t right to ask to forgive certain kinds of crimes like attempted murder etc.
judy
I used to be a hater, at least i know myself. I am always in a bad mood hence i hate… If i am feeling well and doing well, i dont care about anything or anyone and no hatred
I used to listen to Industrial music for a kind of catharsis for my anger. Nowadays that’s less so.
I’ve always been able to keep a handle on myself.
I listen more because I still love that kind of music mostly.
It helps to have someone to confide in, particularly if they can relate.
I hated everybody when I was unmedicated, I thought I was the only living being and that everyone else is fake.
I hate… Yes I do… I’m soryy… Not…
Although maybe its dislike…
Relax. its not your fault…
Hate is a negative emotion that can destroy you. For your own good let it go
Hate is a strong word. But no, actually I am a saint. So no.
Life is too short to hate. I don’t hate. I just get very dissapointed and it’s painful… But time heals wounds
I have a form of shy person hate. Occasionally I am withdrawn and take internal shots at everything and everybody (in my head). It is like a mood of being irritable.
Also, at times I hate people on TV, and I hate the commercials. Sometimes I have stereotypes and I have unfair negative thoughts about entire groups of people.
I try to control my hate. I rarely say any of it out loud.
About 20 years ago, I hated a colleague who verbally attacked me. and about 10 years ago, I hated another colleague who verbally attacked me.
But now, I dont hate.
I’m not well enough to express righteous indignation at certain evils. But I want to be.
I’m too old to hate. I’m sorry I wasted some time with people. I really am but that was more me than them.
Some people just don’t deserve our favor. It’s just how things are…I have people who’ve hated me for sure in the past but I am not buying into that. I just am myself.
Replace your hate for some with love for others and your life is so much better off.
I don’t hate…love always conquers any hate no matter what.
I used to hold onto a lot of hate, but I’m letting go and I’ve found I feel much better for it. Letting go of the anger isn’t the same as forgiving the person. You just fail to acknowledge their existence anymore.
Sometimes I do hate. There is a group of people who somehow feel entitled to run my life, and I hate them for it. If they would just leave me alone everything would be cool.