Has anyone here gone through a divorce? How did you know it was the right thing to do? How long were you married?
My husband is my best friend, but we have unhealthy marriage patterns and he is not willing to work on them. I’m wondering if a divorce is in our future, or if I’m just being paranoid.
Yeah. It is hard but I had an ocean between us. I still talk to my ex now and we have a pretty good relationship. I still have trust issues but I’m not looking to get back with her. It did take me a long time to get an official divorce but I’m glad I did.
If you’ve problems with people you find that change is rare. For me the reasons for breaking up are still the reasons I’m a bit more distant these days. That is just life but I still chat to my ex regularly to see how she and her daughter are going!
Yeah it was a mutual agreement. We were married 21 years but she could not handle me and my sz. She tried but with me in denial it was to hard on her and the family. We talk now and she tries to lend emotional support.
I have never been divorced but my wife and I don’t connect anymore. We just live in the same house and tolerate each other.
She wants me to give her all my stuff and all my money and my houses and me move in with my parents. We have two houses. I keep telling her to go live in the other one but she wants this one too. I picked this one out. She didn’t even look at it before I bought it.
I love my house. I ain’t moving.
@rogueone
I’m glad you can talk with them!
@Raven
21 years is a long time! Beautiful that she supports you!
@TomCat
I hope you find a way to both feel fulfilled!
Like many marriages, it was warm in the beginning then the love was gone.
The divorce was painful for me even if she turned out to be a bad person.
Never again.
I’m so sorry to hear this, @Wave! I hope you are still open to love!
Trying not to think about it anymore.
Yeah the pain was that deep.
Oh, I am so so very sorry!
Thank you @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter.
I divorced my husband but we have three kids together and worked things out. Nothing is perfect but this way I get to see my children every day. I got screwed in terms of custody. My husband is a nice guy but we are more friends than anything.
Are you open to marriage counseling? Not talking about problems can be triggering.
I don’t understand. Did you stay married? Did you remarry? Do you have full custody?
I am. He’s not.
I’m divorced in the beginning of 2011. I was so psychotic and manic. I did horrible things. Not that he was much better. It was just a very bad situation. I regret it so much. But it is too late.
Oh sorry for the confusion. We reconciled and live together/in a relationship but never remarried. I didn’t have custody because I went off my meds. Reconciling was the only way to see my kids 100% of the time.
I went through a divorce in America in 2000. After that I have not even tried to have any new relationships. They promised to mail me the divorce papers to one address in Europe, but in the past 19 years I have not received any papers.
I hope you don’t get divorced, Louise, especially if the two of you need each other
I’ve never been married, probably never will, but I’ve always dated a lot, nothing has ever seemed marriage material.
@FatMama
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this! Sounds awful!
@anon97859349
That makes sense! Glad you can be with the kids!
@mjseu
I wonder what happened to the papers!
@Daze
Me, too! But I’m preparing!
My ex husband was so abusive and hurt me so bad that I swore I would never legally marry again. (And I never did). I divorced him in 1987.