My dear friends.
My spirit is shattered. My heart is broken. I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that my marriage is never going to get any better and that I need to leave now. If anyone on here has gone through a divorce or has had experience with being married to a bully please share insights as to how you dealt with the situation.
I’m sorry to hear about your shattered spirit and broken heart. I have been through that before. I thought my partner had destroyed my soul. I hope you’re ok. Let those tears flow freely if you can, it helps with the healing.
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I wasn’t married to a bully, but I did go through a divorce. It was rough. She ended our marriage while I was in a psych unit, told me “our marriage is over,” over the patient phone. I tried to kill myself in the hospital; I didn’t get far into my attempt, though, thanks to the way the room was designed, couldn’t hang myself with my pants the way I wanted to. This was two months after my last psychotic break. I was totally devastated, but I got through it eventually. I had to move in with my dad until I could get a job and get my own place again.
I reconnected with an old friend when I moved back home. She thought the best thing for me would be to start dating again, so she set me up with a friend of hers, just a couple months after the split. That woman ended things after a month or so because she could tell I wasn’t over my ex; I wasn’t ready yet, but I suppose it did help me get over my ex a little more quickly. It took at least a year, and an awful lot of crying, before I fully got over my ex-wife.
I’m sorry to hear you’re having to go through something like this, @Mouseymoo, but try not to let it crush you. I didn’t think I could go on living without my ex, but here I am more than eight years later, still alive and kicking. Life goes on. 
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I went through divorcing my abuser, a 2 1/2 year custody battle and years of having to hand my son over to him for visitations. It was really awful, BUT I got through it. And I’m stronger now as a result.
When I first left, I was absolutely broken. Over the years I learned, though, that when I stood my ground and made clear boundaries that he had no power. I prayed a lot, relief on my family as much as I could, was in domestic abuse therapy (like Stockholm Syndrome therapy) and worked hard toward rebuilding.
You’re VERY BRAVE, and you can do this! 
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Thanks to everyone for the kind words. They give me hope.
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my wife bullies me. she says that i’m useless and such. it’s all verbal abuse. she doesn’t understand completely about my symptoms of sz. i try to explain it but i’m afraid if i go back to the hospital that she’ll leave me. i don’t think i could live my life without her and she uses that against me.
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I lived with a rotten, cruel abusive bully for nine years. I was married to him for six of those years. I dealt with it by getting educated. First, I got an education in cosmetology, thinking that I would leave him once I got a job in the beauty field. When the job was not forthcoming, I started nurses training in a baccalaureate program of nursing. Once I had my R.N. license and my B.S.N. in hand, I immediately left my bully husband and joined the U.S.A.F. Nurse Corp. One of the best decisions I have ever made.
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I was married to a Borderline Psychopath.
I was cheated on, lied to, verbally and emotionally abused.
I was even physically assaulted by her a couple of times.
I have been divorced from her for years.
Thankfully No kids!
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My ex husband was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive.
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