Bumped into an old school “friend” the other day and heard about another. One of them is married and the other has a successful career. I feel soo depressed. No career not married no kids. My life sucks 
my cousin even has a boyfriend now and I feel so lonely. Mum says I should b happy for her I am too but sad for me.
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Hey, you’ve done stuff too! You’ve had jobs and done other things. While you are comparing yourself to other people, keep in mind that a lot of people who are out there in the world who look like they have happy marraiges are actually miserable in their marraiges. And many people who look like they have successful careers actually hate their jobs and hate their co-workers.
I’m not saying your friends are miserable but lots of people who look like they have it made are just putting on an act for the world. Geeez, personally, I’m thankful I don’t have kids, I never liked them.
There are a lot of people worse off than you… How about the millions of people who don’t even have a computer. Or water. Or the millions of homeless, starving people in the world. At least you’re not being persecuted in Afghanistan or Libya. Your life could be a lot worse.
I understand your depression and maybe you don’t feel like being grateful right now but maybe you can count your blessings and be grateful for what you have instead if being unhappy with what you don’t have.
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Bible study will be good for you, you are never alone with god on your side!.
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you have a mental illness and they don’t…you are a hero 
take care 
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@77nick77 I feel a lot better this morning after having slept it off. I really don’t know what got over me. Sorry for the rant guys.
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Now don’t get me started about God lol
Don’t worry about it. We all feel that way at some time or another, and it is difficult to be grateful for what we have when we are doing bad. I complain to my family all the time.
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I get “reality attacks” like that once and a while, they are very depressing, but I will soon recover from them by just thinking more optimistically of the future, and like 77nick77 says, think of those who have it much worse off then you or I do.
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same happened 2 me tooo…i used to do loads of comparison myself with others…but now i am trying to be neutral …its hard…but have to be hopeful about the future…the day will come… 
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May not seem it but you have been through a lot the last week or so. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
Also an old friend kept trying to point out to me often. Comparison is the thief of joy - Theodore Roosevelt.
So you’re not alone.
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You might find that reflecting on your feelings and thoughts by keeping a journal as adventitious.i have also found that those who practice looking for three things everyday to be grateful for increases self-esteem and slowly causes a beneficial shift in your daily patterned thoughts and perspective.
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