Perhaps every day I have been liking about 20 people for almost the whole of 2024
This has resulted in 2 matches, and 0 conversations
Why do I bother!
Unfortunately I guess I am not one of those flashy profiles
Don’t understand it tbh
I would try and date properly but I would have even less of a chance
I’m not even gonna bother with dating apps or dating for that matter.
I think you’re right to do that
Will be following that advice I think
Dating is hard, especially if people live too far.
And I think men are expected to be successful, or employed with a car & house etc.
I can’t compete. I do get matches on apps though. Never really talk to anyone though. Nobody speaks. lol.
Not a big fan of all of that blackpill lingo (although some of it is funny)
but the ‘chads’ are getting all the swipes. And what’s crazy is their looks overpower their abilities/skills/personality big time. Saw a yt video where someone made a fake profile with a good looking guy as a sex offender, and they got messages from women still.
Hi @Joker
I understand [I think] your frustration.
I am now on four internet dating sites and have been ‘swiping’ and [some] messaging for around nine years. It has resulted in just one date thus far; and I was stood up.
I have had almost [!] no romance in my life though I imagine that is often the case [or worse] for autistics [?].
It is a wonder we have not been ‘bred out’ of the population [though there must be some explanation?]!
I shall keep trying however daft that might be/seem.
Best wishes.
Yea having a good profile is important I think. Unfortunately a lot of people on those apps are shallow or just looking for validation. Maybe it’s best to stick to making friends the old fashion way.
I am at the age now where I think you lose more than you gain
Been about 10 years since I made a new friend irl
These apps are a scam.
I was a free member on OKCupid when c.40 received ‘likes’ and marketing encouraged me to become a paid member.
Turned out a lot of the ‘likes’ were from overseas countries and accounts where it seemed to me passports were more pertinent than partnership.
After joining, my received ‘likes’ dwindled to around a third.
Almost immediately after my paid subscription had expired my received ‘likes’ doubled.
It seemed the algorithm was raising the profile of my account MORE if I was NOT paying than if I was…
Though I admittedly have poor ‘common sense’ and [it’s perhaps associated] paranoia. I tend to oscillate between gullibility and paranoia in part on account of [autistic?] naivety…
but then [e.g.] my ‘new best friend’ turns out to be my mugger [etc.] 
I have at least 4 accounts open on 3 sites.
It’s REALLY annoying. Cos I can’t delete them.
I feel super exposed. It’s nice to delete those things when one wants.
I keep getting email notifications that I received a like etc. But can’t stop them accounts cos I’ve been locked out.
I have the same problem as you but with the BFF on bumble.
Decided I will go to church tmrrw. Maybe there is someone nice there. Who wanna chat with me.
Bumble BFF is also tough.
Maybe if you can’t turn off notifications there is a way to get your email provider/software to send the messages straight to trash?
[…I can really struggle with most software and often simple instructions so I am not the best to be of help with this… I require ludicrous levels of pedantry at times. 
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Lol… I was just venting. But thanks for ur attempt to help.
Unfortunately I can’t get in contact with these dating sites.
But I will try yeah 
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