I am only partly joking when I call her a psychopath. She doesn’t quite fit the criteria but there are some things that have always jumped out at me when reading up on psychopathy. We met when we were 14. She was a bright and bubbly uniquely self confident girl. We were a couple for about two years. I put up with her emotional abuse throughout our entire relationship and that nearly killed me.
This isn’t however why I half jokingly have always thought of her as a psychopath. It wasn’t even her bullying of other girls which can be normal at that age. It was that she even self admittedly couldn’t empathize with anyone. She was always quite the opportunist who would take advantage of anything if it got her ahead somehow. Our first real jobs were at a water park in the summer of 97. I worked in a small burger joint there while she worked the cotton candy tent. Over the course of the summer she managed to steal well over $2,500 from our employers. She didn’t think anything of doing this. Didn’t see it as wrong if it benefited her.
At the end of the summer when they were going over the accounts she was caught but talked her way out of it (which she was also very good at) and was only fired rather than taken to court. That’s not even why I think of her as a psychopath.
The reason I think of her as a bit of a psychopath was that after our break up she got a job screening customers and keeping accounts for a network of human trafficers. I say this only because the network was eventually brought down and she was absolved of any guilt after cooperating with the investigation. But my thoughts were always with the poor girls who were being virtually sold behind the facade of this operation. Everyone knew that this is what was going on here but the authorities were only eventually able to prove it. My ex girlfriend was the one screening the customers and at the very least enabling a network that took advantage of countless underage girls.
To this day, though having “found Jesus” and all that she still obliviously says of this job “It was a pretty good gig until the bust” A pretty good gig. Absolutely no guilt of having…worked for human traffickers! None! Oblivious to the misfortune and manipulation of others.
Again, I don’t believe she was literally a psychopath but I see a lot of psychopathy’s traits in her character. Even the psychologist who my family sent us to told me after meeting her that I should be lucky to have such a girlfriend. Always pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes that young woman was.