I used to get the belt when I misbehaved. When I got caught doing something wrong all my mom had to say were the words “Just wait til your father gets home”, and it was enough to strike fear in us and cause tears. The anticipation and waiting was excruciating. And then when he got home from work we had to pull our pants down a little so a little of our butt showed and my dad would take off his belt and put us over his knee and give us 6 or 7 good whacks. Man, I don’t miss those college days at all.
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haha. Love your work @77nick77 !
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Yeah i got the belt a few times myself when i was younger. It was awful.
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For me it was slaps
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I’ve had the belt, slaps to the face, the wooden spoon, pulled by the hair, and of course being told I was ugly, and worthless. The joys of being raised by a narcissist! Oh yeah, and I’m supposed to pretend he was a good dad and didn’t do those things. Hence why I rarely talk to my dad.
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I worked para educator in behavioral school of middle and high schoolers
the kids used to the call the teachers every name in the book
and they just stood there and took it, tried to ignore it, boy, did I have to hold back
from slapping those little punks silly
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Omg. You crack me up!
My husband got the belt (as a kid). He has no animosity about it. I don’t like physical violence towards children. As a college student though, that’s ok… 
My RSP students used to say to me, “don’t you just want to hit us sometimes?”, and I would joke and say, “I’m not allowed” But the truth is, my students already had violence and trouble in their lives. They didn’t need more, and I had no inclination… I did raise my voice, though, and demanded respect.
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I got the belt. would get whipped till I bleed, did nothing to make me behave, just lost respect for my parents and hated them. after I turned 18 I never talked to them again
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In behavioral therapy classes, we learned that punishment doesn’t make it less likely a behavior will occur. It just makes it less likely the behavior will be observed. In other words, it makes kids learn how to be sneaky and not get caught. A few will stop breaking rules, but that’s only because they don’t know how to get away with it.
Clinically speaking, the most effective way to stop a bad behavior is to ignore it, and instead reward positive replacement behaviors. So if your kid swears at you, you can just ignore whatever they’re saying and be like, “If you want me to listen, you need to speak with respect.” And then as soon as they speak respectfully, praise them for it and say how much you love them, and give serious consideration to what they’re asking for.
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That sounds ideal.
If only there were something you could eat that would just make you forget things that hurt. But there is nothing you can eat to do that. Maybe someday they will find a cure like a pill.
who likes a lecture?
Instruct about life,
not personal failings the kid might have.
I taught my kids by example what it means to be an adult.
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I took a parenting class when my son was a baby and it taught “natural and logical consequences” So, if my son did something that had a natural consequence for him, he learned on his own to not repeat. If he did something and I had to give him a consequence, it needed to be logical and make sense in regards to the offense so that he could connect the action with the outcome and not want to repeat… I think physical violence towards children teaches them that the stronger one wins… I don’t like that lesson.
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too many parents aren’t preparing their kids for the real world
my daughter tells me I was too nice
what can you do
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