At first I thought I was asexual, then I thought I was a lesbian because I was asexual , but it made no sense whatsoever as I do not see myself with a girl. I never felt attracted to people in general in that way.
But then my partner suggested I might be demisexual… I feel attracted to him but it wasn’t instant it toook many many months!
I am asexual
I can’t orgasm with a guy
and I am not attracted to girls enough
and I don’t want that kind of sex where it is all for the guy. lol. sorry if I sound harsh but it makes me uncomfortable, with the right guy he will respect that, and not want to have sex me cos he will feel guilty. I fear that one day what if they are mean to me and trash me in a horrible way then I feel like wow all that sex and it was all for them what about me. 
maybe you really were asexual but then it just changed to demisexual,like it was your sexual development process.
I feel the same… if I’m honest … i say I might be demisexual , yes I’m attracted to him but that attraction isn’t sexual for the most part I just feel comfortable and happy… it used to bother me i couldn’t all the time but he’s not complained and we’ve had an open discussion. now if he was someone who would keep talking about it and pushing it when I didn’t want to i would run for the hills and never look back
Im demisexual. Its part of the asexual spectrum. I like it because i still experience attraction but just rarely and it doesnt get in the way like it does for many sexual people.
I don’t think it is something to worry about @anon80629714. If your relationship was only sexual, there might be something out of place if you want to take it serious.
to feel comfortable and happy is he best thing in a relationship . no one said there has to be much sex or even any at all. for it to be a happy romantic relationship.
I’ve met guys where I’ve felt really awful about myself for not experiencing those feelings. Thought I wasn’t normal. hence why I say I couldn’t be with someone who constantly talked about it or wanted it … we wouldn’t work…
That’s a pretty natural feeling though. If you are looking for a serious relationship, the guys who are putting sex forefront are probably people to avoid.
I think that part of sexual confusion could involve not liking some other stimulation. One school of thought is that provided we use protection, that good, safe sex, in a relationship is acceptable. It’s good. So, the problems come up like caffeine, sugar, nicotine, marijuanna. Something like this, or some other form of conspicuous consumption is a problem. Other people could be manipulating your expectations like a beer commercial.
I’m am definitely asexual. I have no interest in either sex or affection or companionship with anyone.
I think I may be the same way my whole life I was never sexually attracted to anyone. I had a sex drive and got horny I just had no real desire to act on it and found actual physical stuff gross. I got crushes on guys, fell head over heels, but I never thought about having sex with these guys I just fantasized about us being together and happy and maybe even married someday. I genuinely never looked at a person and was like mmm I’d hit that, never. Then I met my current boyfriend and on a whim decided to try sex and I loved it and now find myself sexually attracted to someone for the first time in my life. And he really is the only person I am sexually attracted to. I did not experience sexual attraction to him until we had actually had sex though i did have strong romantic feelings for him. So I can’t really put a label on what exactly my sexuality is I don’t think. I’m definitely straight lol I know that much.
I went through a long period of time where I thought sexual attraction was made up, and everyone was just pretending to have crushes because they wanted to fit in. I have never felt sexually attracted to someone, before a long time of being with Mr. Star. I tried girls and guys and people in between, but nobody rrally did it for me. I have loved people, but just not wanted to have sex with them. I consider myself asexual still, even though I will sometimes have sex with one person. I think I like sex for the feeling of closeness and love, rather than the physical stuff.
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