Well I have had feelings for someone at work for a long time. I know he likes me and there is some flirting going on.
On Saturday I returned from two weeks annual leave and a colleague was telling me gossip that he liked a new member of staff who liked him back and she was trying to push them together.
This obviously crushed me but I did not show it. I decided to redouble my diet and exercise efforts in an attempt to win him over.
I felt immediately hostile to this girl. She is short and apparently it is because she has big boobs (she does not).
Yesterday a different member of staff mentioned that the man I like had been teasing her about liking him to wind her up.
Why would she try to confuse me and wind me up? Am I just being paranoid? I have enough on my plate without this ■■■■.
There is a lot of gossip at the work place.
I would be very careful - do not expose or participate in any kind of gossip or even casual talking at work.
Lots of people tried to mess with me at my work, just because I had a mental illness, this stuff really happens.
If you are gong to deal with this guy that you like, do it in a more discreet manner - do not let anyone else know.
You really cannot trust everyone, especially at a job site - Best of luck to you
He really isn’t that kind of man but I understand that is a risk.
Yes I generally do not associate with the bar staff (the original colleague who told me the gossip) as (evidenced above) they gossip about each other and have a revolving door of staff. In contrast there are only 6 of us in the kitchen and has been for nearly a year, and the guy I like is one of them.
I will put it aside for now but I do not like the attempted mind games.
Thank you both for your input it makes it easier to think about this.