I can’t sleep from anxiety, usually always asleep 2h ago
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I hate when that happens. Don’t you have any melatonin?
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It gives me nightmares. I never get anxiety, now I got it from dating apps. Maybe I should close my accounts.
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Idk if its paranoia but i am afraid of meeting bad peope or maybe i will get robbed or get stds or covid
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I don’t think it’s fair to yourself or other people trying to date when you have this condition. Perhaps in the near future when you have recovered somewhat. Yes, close those accounts.
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I just deleted my accounts
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I get so nervous at any woman that’s remotely attractive that i’ve never been on a date or had a girlfriend despite having been hit on before. If I ever get over this i’d probably still never date a woman from a Church since she’d probably leave me eventually for being agnostic or atheist. I remember you saying you have problems with religion so i’d gather you’re in the same boat as me.
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I’d try anything you can. Loneliness sucks and so does isolation so using others to get a date ain’t a bad strategy.
You don’t have to get married tomorrow but you might find a friend or a confidant. Someone to share life with so don’t go into it with expectations and your always in charge. If it gets too serious or moves to something you don’t like what do you have to lose?
Be realistic and just do it as the athletic company likes to tell us.
Meanwhile keep the diet and exercise going and look for gains there.
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In my opinion, this isn’t true. Women who go to church have even higher standards that non-religious. Many are straight-laced about sex. They’re very judgmental, especially about a man’s morals and reputation in the community. They care a lot more about social standing.
There aren’t a lot of women who own a house, from what I’ve observed. Maybe the stats are different since the last time I looked. A lot of women get paid like garbage (I got paid badly even though I complained male graphic designers where being paid more back when I was working…I couldn’t move into an apartment and the men I dated judged me unfavourably because of this). Women get paid badly, which is why so many women flock to rich men.
Women are also brainwashed with the idea that having a baby will allow them to stay home and do far less work. They’re taught it’s very rewarding to have a family. This is a lie. Taking care of a baby is a ridiculous amount of work and is super expensive now.
I found this, but it doesn’t show whether women own the houses:
According to the latest census data, the percentage of Canadians living in owner-occupied homes fell from 69% to 66.5% between 2016 and 2021 1. The homeownership rate of 66.5% from the latest census is the lowest since 2002 1. It is important to note that the statistics do not differentiate between men and women.
At what age women can’t have kids?
Technically, women can still have them until the end of menopause (which takes place when most women are 50-60), but there’s higher risk the child will have health issues. You could always get a vasectomy…
Yes, they’re out there. Online is the fastest way. Stop listening to your family.
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This is also my observation over the years.
My wife wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom and enjoyed it while it lasted, but it IS a lot of work. I would come home from my day job and she would be even more worn than me. I would help with the kid in the evening and with cooking and dishes and putting away laundry, etc.
I’d say get the hell away from your family. They seem to do more harm than good. A great deal of what you describe about them is abusive.
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I disagree having a family can be rewarding for an male and female of course it has its challenges, but sometimes when an adult have children’s help them find a greater meaning to life.
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Sorry, I didn’t mean to make a blanket statement. Raising children can be rewarding at times, but I think society glamourizes it overly. Growing up, I found that people left out a lot of the downsides when they talked about children. In my 20s, I watched female friends suffer when they had babies really young. A child eats up a lot of free time and energy. But at times, I’m sure it is rewarding.
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Having my daughter has always been rewarding for me. That doesn’t mean that things have always gone well, just that it has all been worth it. It’s also nice that she is reaching the age where our relationship has grown beyond parent and child.
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I’m glad to hear it.
I think sometimes I convince myself it’s a horrible experience, so I don’t have to feel like I missed out on anything because of the schizophrenia. I’m too old to have children now. I tell people I don’t want to hold babies, because it creates longing for what I can’t have. One woman, who I did volunteer work for, years back, held out her grandchild and said to me, “Doesn’t it make you want one?” I had to explain just how horrible SZ is and that I’d be an unfit mother. She distanced herself from me after that. So, even non-relatives think I’m something vile.
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My daughter doesn’t want to have a kid. I’d kind of like to play with a grandkid so you know my bias there, but… Her body and her choice.
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I hangout with my friends daily already, I can just replace them with a wife and do housework. But dating makes me paranoid and I don’t want to increase my meds. How to overcome dating paranoia and anxiety?
That is a good idea to have a girlfriend, it should help your depression.
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If you have anxieties about dating, you should date another woman with sz or other mental illnesses…. that will keep you from having anxieties with dating.
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No I don’t want mentally ill women. I want a rich women who will make me rich.
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