There’s a guy who seems genuinely interested in me I met on another beauty forum. He lives in LA. He’s Asian. He is smart and successful.
He never messaged me (yet) but he seems so eager to be with me. He was going to fly to Toronto to meet me at a meet up.
He has no clue I have schizophrenia and I have no idea how I will ever be able to tell him. He has no clue I talk to myself.
He’s seen pictures and videos of me. But I can’t figure out why he’s so into me? Am I missing something? He’s born and raised American and I’m a foreigner to him. Maybe that’s why he likes me?
What should I do? I mentioned to do a trip to LA with my friend and he immediately said they will host a meet up in January? Lol
If I may ask are you interested in him and please stop with all the self doubt talk everyone has their things that are good and bad I’m sure there is plenty good in you. Fee suggestions, message him first ? Do one of those meet ups just feel him out see if you like him back. You don’t have to tell him about the medical side of things until you know he’s worth your while
I don’t want to be a downer but the same type of thing happened to my friend and eventually he asked her to pay half the price of à ticket to come and see her. She sent the money and waited at the airport. He didn’t show up and then blocked her from any further communication.
This might be completely different. Ì just want you to be aware.
I agree with @everhopeful. It can be helpful to have a conversation over FaceTime first. Have you exchanged numbers? You don’t need to tell him about your diagnosis right away, but tell him early on. It will come up naturally as you talk about life. When you do tell him, make sure to include what recovery looks like for you and how you manage your illness. Give him time to process it and respond. Answer any questions he has. Questions do not mean he is judging you, and you do not need to defend yourself. A delayed response does not mean he isn’t interested, and you do not need to doubt yourself.
My husband does not have mental illness. It was all new for him, but I told him as it came up while we were dating. “What are you doing today? … Going to a counseling appointment.” “What was hard about your past? … I was in the hospital.”
He probably thinks you’re cute. Or likes your personality. As for the schizophrenia thing you don’t necessarily need to tell someone right off the bat, maybe see if you’re actually interested in a relationship with him first.
I went to a Toronto meet up and he said he would’ve come if he knew before. So next time. He never messaged me but we’ve been communicating ambiguously basically. I know I’m crazy but this time it’s real. Lol as hard as it is to believe. Maybe he’s a nerd.
He has no clue I talk to myself.
