I stalked his instagram, there’s no woman. He loves to cook and he loves nerdy socks and star wars and stuff. He’s also really good with words.
Do you think I should message him?
All sounds kinda of odd to me, you say he’s rich and around all kinds of women, there has to be a reason he stays single.
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What could be the reason? You’re right. He’s Korean. Maybe he’s shy nerd?
I think you should get him to facetime you so you can make sure he is who he says he is.
It’s a company forum. He works for the company. I know the founders and lots of members.
Even if shy, rich people can find a partner without much problem, women like stable guys with money, no matter what they look like
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Still,
Wouldn’t you like to facetime with him?
I mean, you guys are talking about meeting up in person,
Seems like the logical first step.
Something about the situation seems a little off to me,
Maybe that’s because I’m an overly cautious person.
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My brother has no problem meeting women.
He’s well off financially.
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I’m just not a person to go after men. If he likes me he should message me. I don’t initiate relationships.
I would ask to skype or something and talk more before meeting, I met a gal from LA once, I flew there , house was a pig pen, she was nothing that she claimed to be. Just don’t get you hopes up till you know more and be aggressive in doing so to be safe
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I thought 30 minutes into live conversation is a good time to gently mention that your brain doesn’t work correctly. But it’s good to mention it when the theme of the conversation seems suitable. For example if you talk about mental health in general. Live conversation I mean eye to eye.
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I think 30 min into the first conversation is too soon. I’d wait for a few dates first. If you think there’s a chance after a few dates, then talk about it.
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I disagree. I just had a date last week…a blind date. 30 mins is enough to get the first impression. Then when your date has had first impression it’s best to get it over with. You will feel more relaxed. I simply said to him…ok now is a good time to tell you something about me…and I just said it.
I think it’s something that should come out on the first date. Cause it’s a critical info about you. You can’t hide it anyway. It’s gonna come out anyway.
I wouldn’t say I have schizophrenia with 30 minutes of conversation. It’s too personal (at least for me). I used to say I had schizophrenia to many people and it not just turns me down like turns other people down. The focus of an initial conversation shouldn’t be on a disease, but on funny things.
When you become trusting more each other, it’s okay to talk about schizophrenia.
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It take 3 months to really get to know a person and I think there is no real need to bring up Schizophrnia in the first meeting, First date you don’t even know if it is going to last at all
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I’m not planning on telling him anything yet. Unless he messages me and expresses genuine interest.
I’m guessing we will end up meeting in 2019 but I won’t make any move or disclose any information until he’s serious.
If he’s someone you’re interested in I say go for it. He sounds like a nerdy shy Korean guy from what I read haha. I’ve met nerdy shy people and they’re usually kind.
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Update: I asked to see him on the show (they host live shows) and he shared his Insta with me (publicly) I did follow him. He has like 1-2 pictures of himself and yesterday he posted a full picture of himself. And I liked it.
I also complimented him and was honest. I asked how come he’s single when he’s cute and intelligent? He said he was focused on his career which is probably a good lie. He said he’s at the stage in his life when he wants to find a woman to settle down with and marry before he turns 40. He’s really cute though, I like him.
I don’t have any hope of getting into a relationship with him managing this horrible illness. He probably wants to get married to a lovely woman (he probably thinks I’m a lovely healthy woman) and have kids.
I’m at the stage in my life when I don’t care about anything much. I am making peace with my life and my capabilities. I can nowhere live up to his dreams.
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In case he ends up messaging me anytime, I will be brutally honest with him and tell him this:
“I take 5 different medications every day to function. Are you sure you want to get involved?”
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