Bad influence

One of my husband’s friends is moving near my area.

Not super close, but visiting close for sure.

This man is not just my least favorite of my husband’s friends,

He’s one of my least favorite people on Earth, period.

It’s been over ten years since we fought and I’m still sore about it.

Now he’s going to be around, again.

He’s going to want to hang out with my husband (possibly the two of us) from time to time.

I doubt he’s kicked the booze and party drugs.

It makes me nervous.

I can’t control my husband and tell him to stay away from this piece of garbage.

If he wants to see him, he will.

I’m not looking forward to this.

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I think you have aright not to be around bad influences if your husband want to see him you can ask him not to bring him around you

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Your husband kinda reminds me of a friend I have. My friend just can’t stay away from shitty people. He’s always doing hard drugs, then he flips out and goes to the hospital.

Some people just can’t grasp that having no friends, or only a few friends, is way better than hanging out with shitty people.

I think you need to tell your husband what’s up. Set some boundaries.

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I’d tell him he can hang out with that guy if he wants, but that you don’t want to be included

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Tell your husband how you feel about the guy, and always have an excuse why you’re busy. I’m sure he’ll get the hint after a while, and it’s less of a shitstorm

I’ve been thinking about this on and off all day. Thoughts…

  1. This guy may be your husband’s friend, but you are still your husband’s best friend, period. He needs to respect the commitment he made to you, hear you out, and respect your feelings.
  2. If he does hang with his friend, you are within your rights to ask him to do it outside of your home. You have MI issues and don’t need this kind of invasion of your safe space.
  3. If your husband gets blitzed/wasted while hanging out with d00d, he needs to not come home in that state as there’s no better way to start a good fight. This will preserve your marriage.

I dunno. Could be talking out my arse here, but that’s what came to mind.

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Sounds like bad news! Bad friends can litteraly ruin your life so be careful.
Im trying to join this group chat online and the owner goes off after every time i contribute to the chat.
I guess i should leave them alone.
I dont do drugs or drink or party but something about makes men angry, its really sad.

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Dear @anon72545146, its very delicate for me, but i tell you, i divorced my exwife because she picked my “bad influence” friends for me. I felt caged up. But maybe the “bad influence” friends caused the divorced. You need to be clever.

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Good advice.

I’d prefer my husband just respect my wishes and not hang out with this trash can, but it’s going to happen.

I don’t know.

I may have a heart to heart with my husband and tell him why this is such a bad idea.

This guy is just absolute human garbage, but we go back a long way.

The dude stood in my wedding.

I feel like maybe we can talk.

But I don’t think either one of us wants to put any more energy into trying to be friends.

It just sucks.

Way can’t his stupid ass stay in Texas?

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Can you honestly blame anyone for fleeing Texas right now? (Tip-toeing around a board rule.)

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