As most of you know,
I spent years caring for my mother in law after my husband brought her into our home against my wishes.
We agreed years and years ago that we would live together, just us, for the rest of our lives.
We made an exception for her,
Now I feel like my husband is going to ask for another one.
Our friend is in bad shape.
He introduced my husband and I,
Also we were both close friends of his independently.
He’s struggled with about every kind of substance addiction you can get into.
When we thought he was at his lowest, we sent him to rehab several states way to get off heroin.
Since he moved away from us some years ago,
He’s steadily been drinking himself to death.
Well, he’s dying now.
Liver is blown out, needs a transplant.
Kidneys are hardly working,
He’s on dialysis.
And a plethora of other issues, all related to drinking/drug use.
This man is my husband’s best friend.
I know he’s going to ask if he can come live with us at some point.
I can FEEL it.
Soon this guy is not going to be able to care for himself or support himself financially.
I don’t want to be a caretaker again.
My life is worth more than that.
Sounds mean, but I’ve done my time.
How can I discourage this?
He’s going to have to go to a care facility at our age (37) if someone doesn’t intervene.