A friend of ours is a really bad boyfriend and I don't know if it's our place to call him out

Lounge
1

My husband had a friend in his pool league that has been coming to our house to play pool every Friday since COVID.

Both of us have become pretty close with him.

He’s a cool guy, we have similar interests, he has a good sense of humor,

But we found out recently that he’s a terrible boyfriend.

He was telling us stories about his girlfriend and reading us their texts of when they were arguing.

I wish I could get into the detail, but you’ll have to trust that he’s beyond controlling, bossy, petty, talks down to her.

It’s really surprising.

I kind of don’t want him around anymore,

But my husband wants to talk to him.

I think they’ll end up fighting.

No one takes a talk like that well.

What do you do?

1 Like
2

Definitely confront. If the freak out its their loss. Its also possible they are angry but still wanna be friends.

3

Maybe it’s how you guys approach the topic. Not make him to be a bad guy - but give him advice.

1 Like
4

Maybe frame the talk in a way which sounds like you are looking out for him and doing him a favour.

By that I mean you could say like ‘wow you have a good girlfriend. But maybe don’t say ‘this’ or ‘that’ because women don’t like that. For your sake maybe stuff like ‘this’ instead’

I don’t know. I am pretty awful at important conversations

2 Likes
5

I would challenge him on it. If he doesn’t correct his behavior consider eliminating him as a friend. I try to only be friends with people who will lift me up.

6

I mean is he primarily your husbands friend?
If he is then there’s not much you can do about it.
But you can choose to avoid the guy as much as possible

1 Like
7

This topic was automatically closed 14 days after the last reply. New replies are no longer allowed.