i often wind up in horrible relationships with “friends”. they take all the advantage of me they can.
how do you get out of such a story?
judy
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My biggest problem is being able to say no to anyone in need. If I had the confidence to put my foot down I wouldn’t get so hurt and let down by others.
Well that and lower your expectations of people in general lol.
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I cut off all contact with all of my old friends and never made new friends. Now people can’t take advantage of me or mess with my life anymore.
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My friend who I had and (he was gay) it doesn’t matter that he’s gay. Other than that he told me when we first met he wanted to rape me.
And abused me and treated me like ■■■■ all these years. I know he’s a narcissist.
But I blocked him then he blocked me back
God i was so sick of him trying to push me around.
Fn pedophile perverted sicko I have scars cuz him.
In my experience, these are the same people who will often threaten you once you cut them off. It’s still better to cut them off. I just had this happen again the other day, and it’s not fun at all.
You have to stand up for yourself. You’re the one who allows yourself to be used or not. Once you realize this, it can be incredibly empowering. It’s also gotten easier to cut them off sooner rather than later. Once you start giving, it becomes expected of you, then they resent you for taking away what they’ve grown entitled to. Creating boundaries early on is key.
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I had to do some deep thinking about this recently. I realized something. People who love being helpful tend to get uncomfortable around people who offer help. They prefer to be the ones helping others, and feel nervous about accepting any help in return. People who love taking advantage of others tend to get very excited around people who offer help, and will frequently ask for it.
People who are insecure and afraid of losing friendship will often try to bribe their friends to stick around by offering help, and by refusing to accept or ask for help. This leads to a cycle where the people who would probably make great friends are too insecure and uneasy around each other, so they wind up befriending people who are more interested in them as a resource than as a friend.
I’ve been working hard to stop offering so much help right out of the gate with new friends, and to just focus on sitting around and talking. I still don’t ask for help, but I will accept it if someone offers, and then I will try to return the favor with them.
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I made a song about bad friends 
Don’t quote me bro lol
OKAY. ft. Zwolfgang
Your spot on @fractaled
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This thread is just within a bad narrative
People are versatile (like my homie kodak black)
You can’t have expectations or hopes for others
That stuff will make you suffeer
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I’ve been taken advantage of very badly via my vulnerable mental health at the time.
I was taken advantage.
Some people like to be used
I dont
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Who likes to be used?
Sorry to hear
1515charcters
You will figure it out at one point
Don’t stress it
I’m just asking you. I’m not stressing it
Im talking little stuff like attitude
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I had sex with this guy like 50 times in total even though I didn’t want to.
Maaaaaad.
OK I can’t actually remember how many times
Keep on counting 