I hate to say but I feel I am dislike,I want to be lovable,I will try
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I am a strange entity. I am not sure how people feel about me.
you’re a real likeable person here on the forums, that’s all I can say mobc.
judy
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I don’t think it’s that people are either likable or dislikable. I think it’s negative or positive.
So many things in life are negative lately that people seek other positive people. I notice that when I’m angry and negative, people don’t really want to be around me. When I’m feeling better and I’m more patient and positive, more people will hang out with me.
Everyone has the potential to be lovable. No one is without that. It’s just this illness makes it hard to be loving back. But with some practice and patience, you can get there. It’s not easy, but if you can, keep ahold of the positive in your life and let that grow.
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i wouldn’t say lovable but i don’t think anyone dislikes me at all…
I guess i’d have to say it depends on where you know me from. I know that the people who know me from the clubhouse where I volunteer my time think of me as a “kind, quiet and respectful idealist”. There are a few people at our clubhouse who have known me outside of the clubhouse and they have more of an insight into the duality that is moi as they’ve seen me toke, drink and talk crazy.
But generally people have found me likeable yes, but of course there are the few here and there I clash with.
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That is a very good point. People who know me from a few years ago would not call me likable. People who meet me now seem to like me well enough. They stick around more so I’m taking that as an indication that I’m on the right track.
I don’t meet too many lovable people. Their wives or husbands or children might love them but I sure don’t. My few friends I’ve had seemed to like me. But sometimes we hated each other. I didn’t feel well liked in high school. Occasionally now someone will like me, most people I think are indifferent to me. I’m not putting myself down but I’m always surprised when someone likes me. Living alone and doing things alone makes me lose my perspective, Like Dennis Miller said, 'There’s a huge pool of ill will out there" I’m not perfect by a long shot but I do fall into other peoples negativity and feel bad about myself when I lose battles or someone intimidates me or makes feel bad. I forget until my therapist or psychiatrist or my family tell me that I’m a good person. I will forget that for months or a year until someone reminds me. I mean lots of girls seem lovable just for the fact they are girls and they are nice or pretty.
I can be a real pain in the neck.
I don’t think I’m either. I think I’m invisible to most people. People look right through me like I’m not there.
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My problem is I’m too nice to people, I’m too soft with them, whereas with myself I am very harsh. I don’t like myself as I can be a bitter person full of selfishness and negativity, but to people I am too timid and shy to be anything but nice. But I can be aloof and cold and unsociable too. So it depends on who you ask…
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I feel like that could describe me.
I think that most people who actually know me - like me. I am sure there are a few that don’t like me, but then again I am sure the feeling is mutual. I frankly do not care if someone doesnt like me, I am not that insecure. I do realize that most of the time I am self absorbed but I have been improving with more giving and less taking
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Mostly people are indifferent to me. I am not particularly loveable, but the few that like me and dislike me pretty much even out.
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I’m not good on first impressions, mostly because of my behaviour, but once people get to know me and look beyond it, apparently I’m likeable, caring, it shocks me that people feel this way about me …
However my mum tells me in her wise ways that there is good and bad in everyone, we are capable of doing good, just as much as we are of bad and we are different with who we are keeping company, so they will view us in their own way. I don’t think anyone is capable of being disliked by everyone even the people percieved as the worst in society are capable of being liked!
You’re liked on here, so keep that in mind.
Take care,
Meg.
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I am well liked. I don’t have the romantic “lovable” pull that some people posses. I know that I’m attractive. I just haven’t found someone that fits me. As far as a broad social sense, I get along well with others. I am pretty good with first impressions. It just takes a smile really and listening skills.
As far as positivity and negativity. I read somewhere that it is like a battle between two wolves. It’s the one you feed that wins.
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Everyone dislikes me. My nickname is “Ice Princess that needs to get l**d”. 
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Both…
Depends who is doing the loving/liking or disliking…
There is also the middle ground: being tolerated… “I don’t hate him, but I dont really like him as someone I would hang out with much…I tolerate him…”
I can get along with almost anyone, though i have my share of I tolerate them types…
For a relationship there has to be a huge connection with everything and both lovable
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All you need really is ONE person to love you.
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That is absolutely true…