I’ve got it wrong on a good few occasions, been taken in by what i thought was a
genuine smile, big mistake !!!.
No I am not. I believe that most everyone hates me. Just about 85% of people on the planet hate me. And I am told by my pdoc and nurses that this is my paranoia.
I’m not a good judge. I’m sort of the opposite. When people like me, I still think they don’t. Why would anyone like me? They might not go out of their way to mess with me… but why would they like me?
I think most people are basically polite and just trying to get through their day and have no reason to mess with me. So when they are doing something nice, I don’t figure it as them liking me.
The thing is… I’ve been told my girlfriend did like me for much longer then I guessed. I didn’t understand her broad hints.
When I used to do be a bit more heavy drinking and heavy partying, I met a lot of takers behind kind smiles. I figured my judgement was off back then due to the drugs and alcohol.
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with most normal people i think yes but i’ve got it way wrong before. never mind. nasty people aren’t worth knowing anyway in my opinion. let them talk. they obviously have very boring lives if they’ve nothing better to do than talk shite about you. so let them. just stick on a smile and go meet the genuine ones in life. i think you have to pick a few bad apples before you get the good fruit so to speak. xxx
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I am not a good judge of when someone likes me, because I am kind towards most of the people so when other people are being nice to me, I would take it as a general kindness and politeness rather than showing fondness. It’s hard to tell the subtle difference between these two.
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99.9 % of the people on this planet don’t even know you or know you exist!! So how could they hate someone that they have no knowledge of or have no contact with?
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when you’ve been homeless it scars you when your homeless you don’t feel part of society you feel that you are almost sub human because that’s how people treat you it is hard to et over that.
youalways feel like your not good enough. and that people will ALWAYS just try to take advantage of you.
Man, when I was very ill for years, many people took advantage of my shortcomings - including so called friends and my ex wife. I am not a very good judge when I was sick, but I am a pretty good judge when I am more stable.
I am very cautious around people in general some of it has to do with my paranoid/anxious nature and I do think I am cautious because I have been burned a ton of times in my past.
Its a fact, many people are not honest with others - I just like to keep my distance some
Pretty darn good.
It comes from the experience of observing people as they interact with others.
Although knowing something isn’t what you want and being able to do something about it is two completely different things.
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wave by nature I trust everyone and learnt the hard way that that’s not a great idea. i am gullible to so i just put a wall up now.
i never get it wrong…i see through people.
take care
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Someone in my family hugged me, then stabbed me in the back.
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i can’t think of anyone who genuinely likes me…people i know don’t like me,so it is easy to judge…
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Yes, although so many things effect it some days though like paranoia, low self esteem etc. But judging beyond platonic friendships I can get a bit lost. Which is an understatement.
sorry that happened.
take care
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i like you…big hug.
take care
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I don’t think it matters. What is in it for me if everybody likes me and I can’t like myself. That’s my area now I owe myslef the basic right of liking it and hope to catch a good friend in the process
I like you too …
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thank you…
i know how that feels bubbles but it comes from abelief we hold inside of us i am unlikable unlovable and that is not the truth! paranoia can make it feel like everyone hates me " i like you too your reply on my thread made me feel a million dollars LOL