A recurring insecurity of mine is that people don’t like me and would rather I wasn’t around. It’s a hard one to get past. Assurances only serve to stop the insecurity/paranoia for a short while.
- Yes
- Maybe
- No
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I feel the same. But today when I was on a local festival a woman sat down by me and started talking. She had low intellect. Don’t know what it is called in english. Either I look friendly or she trusts about anyone. She wanted to visit me. I did not tell her where I live. She was amazed I have kids. She thought I was much younger than I am.
I get a little panic when people come and talk to me like that. But not as much when I realize they aren’t “normal”.
I thought my therapist didn’t like me very much. I also get really anxious around strangers so I don’t really go out much. Have to just put up with it at work with my co-workers. Some days I feel like they all hate my guts.
I voted no and I’m Okay with that. While I am certain that some people like me and some don’t, I don’t always trust myself to be able to tell the difference, because people lie.
I don’t see that it’s all that important that everyone likes me. Why should I care? I don’t like everyone either. But I struggle with that that transition between thinking that people might like me, and knowing it. It’s one of those negative symptoms that make me feel like other people are speaking a different social language that I don’t know.
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It’s the feeling of being generally disliked as opposed to not being liked by everyone.
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Without sounding cynical it seems that most people regard each other as ‘in the way’ and ‘competition’ so many will try and find reasons not to like us. Nothing personal; they often just want our slices of the pie as well theirs.
Many people will also use one’s fear of judgement to manipulate them.
You’ll find that the ones whom like us will find us eventually and they’ll stick around because we’ll understand each other and genuinely be there for the other.
And no, it’s not many. Most only have one or two true confidants during their lifetimes.
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I think it’s low self esteem issue.I had traumatic event happening to be when I was a child and adolescent,it certainly did damage.I am more reserved,quiet and anxious than the normal population,but i will find ways to accept myself or improve these issues
Recently I went out to get a coffee after spending about a month in the house, and I found myself waiting for something weird to happen, but nothing did. Also nobody seemed to like me or dislike me.
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My idiot brother tells me that I am insecure - He is surely projecting again.
I am at the point in my life where I could care less about how others perceive me - I was not placed on this planet to please others - I could care less if others like me or not, ive been through too much crap to really care about what others think of me.
If you allow people - they will usually take advantage of you.
I notice that there is always a price to pay - It is Human nature to use others for ones own personal needs.
I have been used and I also used others in the past - not proud of this fact
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I am always surprised when I find that people are OK with me.
I know I come off as needy and insecure because there are a lot of times I feel people don’t like me. I know my family likes me. I know my gf and a friend or two do also.
I think if they didn’t, they would leave me.
I’m still tense around people I don’t know well and I’m still surprised when I get asked to join in with a conversation or activity.
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I think most all of us feel the need to be accepted and given the attention we think that comes with it. From what I have gathered, is that some of the great thinkers of the past and present, isolated themselves for long periods of time in order to be better able to think in their own special ways and went on to discover what others had not that much interests in because of the need to be among the more popular crowd of people. Safety in numbers as they say. I always felt I was different and so made it a point to keep my distance from the popular crowd by deliberately “not” doing what everyone else did that strengthened the bonds between themselves and most others. We are unique for a reason and we have to know our selves as best we can to discover that reason. This is not a popularity contest, well at least, I didn’t enter one.
Hi need a do not care option on your poll.
When you are young you have to think of those things I guess. But friends are people that like who you are and will help you in need and you help them. Everyone else is an acquaintance.
When ■■■■ happens in life, you find out who your REAL friend are. So I guess I have no friends. I should find some but can they deal with me? I’m pretty good most of the time but illness does interfere with relationships with people.
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i was going to say the same exact thing - feel the same way
I still have an obsessive need for everyone’s love. But mostly I don’t give a ■■■■ which is the most liberating feeling ever.
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Blood is thicker than water.
So family may love us no matter what issues we have.
I think so called normals in life, only think of themselves. They create drama and stress and I can’t handle that.
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Amen to that, again, I totally agree with you
I feel confident that most people DON’T like me! 
I have a tendency to alienate people due to the fact that I live in my own little world and am very self-centered. I mean no harm but I say a lot of things that offend people.
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I think that perfectly sums up how I feel.
In a lot of ways people are willing to give me the benefit of the doubt, but in other ways they hold me to a standard that is galling. People’s expectations of me can be odious.
i put yes but not always bc i know there are some people who dont like me bc i cant please everyone and thats why i keep my friends close but i am always trying to reach out to people and sometimes even to the ones that dont like me,
i have came a long way since i was withdrawn and unsociable, but i guess i was always a bit sociable its just i didnt have much chance to socialise bc i was stuck in the house a lot which made it worse, luckily i met sweep in the hospital and i could talk to her instead of being on my own, being on your own is not a lot of fun esp if you have sz, its so hard and i’m still trying to work it all out you know (the past i mean)
but yeah if you can find a friend or attend a group or something, visit family, college, voluntary work, anything that gets you out of the house and interacting with others it helps in so many ways, i would fester in a poky little room looking at the walls hoping for some sort of miracle that would never come, thought if i just lay in my bed staring at the cieling for long enough i would be ok but it didnt work lol.