What the hell is wrong with me. Why don’t I like psychical intimacy. I’ve considered if I like women but I don’t see myself with a woman at all. I feel a strong connection with my partner but lately I’ve been struggling more with intimacy. I can’t figure out what’s wrong with me. I’ve had this discussion with my partner. He says if I’m asexual it’s ok. But I just don’t want to be you know ?
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You’re so lucky you found an asexual OK partner.
That’s like finding a needle in a haystack.
Yea intimacy doesn’t always come easy.
I have problems with intimacy when I don’t feel comfortable in my body, but that’s me.
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Try to accept what he says. Take advantage of the time you have to relax for a while and do some soul searching. But really, I think you should first take time accepting where you are right now and just be.
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our meds mess wit hormones imo
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I thought forever that i was asexual but it ended up being negatives/meds
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I’m demisexual. So that’s in the asexuality spectrum.
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I don’t think we get to choose our sexuality. We may feel peer pressure and we may want to be like such or such friend / neighbor / idol, but we are who we are. For some people it takes a long time to accept who they are. You may need some counseling, have you discussed the matter with a professional?
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I really think that some people actually have severely lowered libido or sex drive, which is a common side effect of many medications. This happened to me when I was on various medications.
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Funny how the meds can change your sex drive to nil
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I am little asexual too… i like foreplay but i don’t like intercourse… when i was in a brief relationship with a girl i experienced this…
Since then i have only done video sex and sexting mostly …
And sometimes foreplay …
The actual sex doesn’t intereste at all
With men too i will mostly be like that
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My husband is on the asexual spectrum and we figured out a way around it… He is very accepting of himself and so am I… Be more open and honestly about yourself to yourself and be compassionate to yourself… I know you may feel like a freak or abnormal but you’re just figuring out who you are and if that’s different from other people’s standards embrace it! There’s only one you and you should love yourself
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@anon29983254 my husband was on no meds when we met he’s always had a very low libido
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whats wrong with sex?
i think its awesome (if i can get it)
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Mr. Star and I spent years trying to stop being asexual. Even with each other. We are much happier now that we have embraced it.
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Since u have a partner i’d wonder more if it’s ur medication rather than sexuality.
are you on meds? maybe its low libido. Weight gain can also cause low libido.
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I was sex and pretty much all touch aversive for a long time but it was because of trauma in my case. I thought I was asexual for a long time. But after years of therapy and finally finding an amazing partner who truly cared for me I discovered that was not the case!
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I suppose giving up makes me asexual now
Please keep the graphic discussion out of this.
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I’ve not had sex since 1990. It stopped when my late wife couldn’t enjoy sex after the stroke she had. It wasn’t something I overly enjoyed, and I certainly wasn’t a skilled lover.
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