I need to know we can be in relationships. I am currently engaged and when my symptoms flare things get so rough and we cant completely figure it out yet… I dont know what to do. It’s like my brain suddenly is looking for things to get defensive about.
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Been with Mrs. Squirrel since May of 1999. We’ve been married since July of 2000.
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Any advice or wisdom
I’ve been with Hon for 29 years…married 19.
My advice?
“Sweat the small stuff…and keep a cool head with the big stuff.” 
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Be honest and faithful. Don’t do things – even in private – that you know you would be hurtful to your mate and never do anything you wouldn’t want to have to testify about in court.
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I’ve been in one for 4 years it’s going great.
One thing is communication is an absolute must.
I tend to misinterpret things and immediately go on the defensive because my perception of the situation is skewed.
Thankfully my gf is very understanding, patient and works through things together.
I misinterpret stuff a lot in most of my relations with people. So I always try to take a step back and analyze the situation logically the best I can.
It’s tricky with the bipolar/sz brain to do relations but it can be done!
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How do you deal with symptoms? Do you tell them everything? I’m afraid of over whelming her . Plus some of my paranoia is about her and another guy.
I agree with @shutterbug. I’ve been married since December 2000. We share everything and don’t keep secrets. When i have symptoms i tell him I am feeling off. He doesn’t need to know every detail of what my symptoms are, but i let him know i need extra help or to be alone.
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Married 11 years and five kids. Communication and understanding the other view point goes a long way.
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I’ve been with my gf since 2004. Tomorrow Aug. 4th is our 15 year Anniversary. It’s been rocky but mostly continuous.
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I’ve been with Mr. Star for over 5 years, married for 3 on Monday. We just started fostering kids together.
My advice is to always clearly communicate your needs, but take responsibility for them as much as you can. Taking proper care of yourself is one of the best gifts you can both give each other. If both of you put your own needs first, you’ll be well rested and better able to help each other when you really need it. And remember to distinguish between needs and wants. For example: I need Mr. Star to take the kids for an hour or two each day so I can go do social things with no kids. If I don’t get that time, my temper flares and I’m not able to be as patient as I want with the kids. I also WANT him to take out the garbage every time, but it’s something I’m perfectly capable of doing on my own. It doesn’t hurt me to take out the garbage. It only inconveniences me.
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Over two years together, and engaged. She accepts me for my sickness and loves me. Both of us are very happy
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I’m glad other people here have successful relationships. I’ve never been able to have one because I have such a hard time trusting other people. But I’m a good dog owner who never hits or yells at my dog, and the friendships I am able to have are loyal ones.
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I have been married almost 27 years. My wife is a pain in the ass.
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Longest relationship I’ve been in was half a year.
Best advice I can give is; find someone who makes you laugh. I think that’s a good base for any relationship.
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I have told her everything symptom related but after that I deal with it myself or with pdoc or this forum
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