He is emotionally abusing you…
And what makes it worse is that he’s allowing you to feel bad for wanting an apology off him that you deserve! He is in the wrong, not you. If there’s anyone who should be ignoring the other’s messages, it’s you.
I get that he means a lot to you but the least you deserve from him is a little bit of respect and gratitude. I would say block his ass and see how he copes without you for a while. He might think twice about kicking you out next time.
I would wait till he calls and let him know what he did was not cool, even if your upset you don’t let a woman walk home alone at that time, he could have just said goodnight and went to sleep. It was very rude what he did
He’s seen my message now, but he still hasn’t responded. I wish I wasn’t such a chicken, I really really want to just send him something like…
“Hey, can we talk? I would like to talk to you about something, but if you’re not in the mood for it, it can wait until you are. Also, it’s up to you whether it’s via messenger or on the phone. I’ll be up all night, so feel free to call/write me at any time.”
I just don’t want him to get madder at me. Also because I have an important meeting tomorrow and he said he’d arrange transportation, and I’m scared he might not do it if I piss him off now.
I am sorry but you need to set some standards in how these men treat you?! This is not the first time you are posting this. What an immature jerk? At 5:00 am? If it were me i think it will be the last until eternity!
Does he have a car?
Can you take public transportation? It seems like you should be arranging your own transport, regardless of how things turn out with your friend. This relationship seems pretty co-dependent which is unhealthy for both of you in the long run.
I borrowed some money from another friend, so I guess I could use it on busfare.
This is super unhealthy in my opinion. I beg you to no longer continue your friendship with this individual!
@Berru - the sound of this relationship also concerns me - red flags are waving. 
I wound up sending him the message, and he called right after. Even though I’d specified in the message that we should talk when he had the energy, he called me from his bed saying he was asleep and got woken up by my message, but wanted to know what it was I wanted to talk about.
I told him that I’d like to talk to him about what happened yesterday to sort of clear the air, and he just said “ugh, not now”, so I told him “Ok, goodnight” and we hung up.
I don’t know why he’d call me in such a state when I told him on the message that it should wait until he had the mood/energy for it…
I hope he doesn’t rip me a new one tomorrow for waking him up.
I guess the ball’s in his court now, he’ll probably call or write when he feels it’s the right time. Right?
Berru, you seem like a very nice person but it’s not good to let people treat you like that.
It sounds as though you are walking on eggshells around this person even though you deserve an apology and you shouldn’t feel sorry for inconveniencing him. To be honest, you don’t just deserve an apology, you deserve better. This person you’re discribing sounds like abusive trash. Or what I like to say, an asshat
Although mental illness can make a person behave unlike themselves even I still think it is not ok.
It seems that he has no fear of losing you and he feels he knows you will stay around no matter how he treats you.
Being understanding and forgiving can be great but when the person keeps treating you bad I think it would be good to stand strong and say this ain’t ok.
That you called him may of not been good as he should be the one calling with a apology .
People can change and improve themselves.
He seems to think he can treat you so badly and that you will always be there no matter how much he hurts you.
He should respect you and appreciate you.
Maybe some day he will.
It could be possible that it is the behaviour of his illness and not him but it is still not ok to treat you that way specially without a apology.
He did not even give you one when he eventually called.
I can imagine how hurtful his behaviour can be.
Can you get professional help in how to behave and what to do when he behaves like that?
Put your foot down and make him treat you with care and respect.
That could of put you in danger making you walk in the rain by your self.
I have also had relationships like this I think or similar.
I understand you may want a great big love like a mum in a way but even they put there foot down and say it’s not ok to treat me this way.
He may take for granted that no matter what he does you will be there and maybe he will make you apologise to him instead by twisting things.
Wishing you beautiful relationships and friendship.
And to be respected by your friends to not treat you that way.
I do not get respect by people either I think.
When I was young I hung out with people that bullied and abused me because sometimes they were nice?..
Hope the destructive relationships will turn good .
Some pro advice might help.
But have you ever behaved badly to him and he forgiven you?
I was so sorry I was not there for my best friend and boyfriend because others were steering me and in my body and voices screams moanes etc
I apologise to him but it was not me…
It was them.
He was there for me but I was not really there for him and others steered me.
We lost contact but I pray forgiveness for my wrong doings .
Hope you will find the right way for you to what to do.
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That was a very thoughtful and well-written post @Truemist8 , full of good advice.
why Thank you Moonbeam.
N back at ya😊
If this is true, I shudder to think what worse things he has done to you. Making you walk alone in the rain at 5 AM is a really terrible thing to do, and if your friendship has gone through even worse things, that’s a major red flag. What he did to you is abuse. What he is still doing to you is abuse. Don’t underplay his flagrant disregard for your well-being.
i think i might wait till he contacted me, and live as if everything is ok, if i’m still hungry and desperate.
being unwell is difficult. the systems of this world were not created for us. i can sometimes ‘play ball’ and sometimes cant believe i couldn’t correctly add and subtract my checking account.
as i’ve gotten older i have decided not to allow people i care about to treat me poorly. not to add to the evil.
desperate times though call for desperate measures.
i hope you can get food shelter and such without tolerating such meanness toward yourself.
I don’t concern myself in human sociality. I am more or less asocial.