Dad has been diagnosed with cancer in his brain. He is coming home tomorrow. I won’t be able to see him through his treatment, it is affecting me emotionally. I think the best option would be for me to move out. I have no choice or else I will relapse. I know it.
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Dealing with cancer is incredibly difficult, and it’s important to be realistic with yourself about how much you can handle. Are you planning to live alone, or with other friends/family? He has your mother there to help him, and he would probably feel terrible if he knew his disease caused you to relapse. As long as you still visit and let him know you love him, that should be enough.
The rest of your family might not understand though. I know how close-knit your family is, and they might be upset with you. But, ultimately, your schizophrenia is just as serious as his cancer, and you need to make sure you are proactive about treating it. Do everything you can to help him, but don’t do more than you can. It’s really tough finding a balance.
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I totally agree with cj9556. You need to find balance. Anyone who understands schizophrenia will understand your reasons as to why you can only do so much. My sons doctor told us that schizophrenia is the cancer of mental illness and I agree. I’ve lost family members to cancer and I also have family members with sz. They are both devastating illnesses. Take care of yourself. You and your dad will be in my prayers.
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High stress/anxiety and also severe depression tend to bring on psychosis for me. It may even be psychotic depression instead of schiz, I don’t know, but I definitely get it. If you push yourself too much, then not only can you not be there for others at all, but then you need them to help you more, instead vice versa. If we really care about others, then we have to do our best to take care of ourselves first, so that we can be there when we can.
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I have not had a psychosis in six years. I am feeling the start of a depressive issue though. I have schizoaffective btw. I think I might need to see my GP on Friday to see if there are meds to help me through this also.
I am understanding your predicament as I also have elderly parents.
I live on my own but I worry about my parents
It’s tough with schiz and no close freinds or relationship. In my case that is
I feel bad because my biggest worry is my illness
It really is about finding a healthy Balance @anon80629714.
You never know, you are probably stronger than you think, you might be able to stay home during this difficult time - just allow yourself plenty of time for yourself to recharge your batteries sort of speak.
I think that it is important that you talk to your doctor about managing your meds during this time - you may need some adjustments.
I live at home with my elderly parents, my Mom has a hard time walking and she has Dementia - my Dad has his own Health issues that he is dealing with.
I try to find the right balance everyday - I’m sure that you will adjust yourself and find that balance as well.
You can do this.
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