I feel like I lost the “spark” of excitement/ energy that i once had when talking to girls (I’m a guy) and they can no longer see me as potential sexual partners. I’m 21 haven’t had sex in three years and never had sex with a female.
Does anyone else feel like, among other things, this is one aspect of life affected by sz? Negative symptoms maybe? I’ve tried dating and talking to women while sz but never with any success. I’m giving up until an improvement in my state.
Yeah. I feel like no one would want me. I believe people can read my mind so I’m defective and not dating material.
I dealt with a lot of subtle paranoia for the greater part of my life. It prevented me getting into decent relationships…friends ok…romantic no chance as I’d always end up wrecking things.
It took getting on meds and getting the doses right- it really did. These days I can have decent romantic relationships with women and it makes a world of difference. Never say never and keep striving for first…better function…then more social opportunities.
before…
i had the desire to talk to girls
now i cant at all
What if symptoms are OK? Not great, but OK? I can work (20h a week), somewhat keep fitness up, cook my own meals but the negative symptoms seem to be kicking my tush in a lot of ways too.
My problem isn’t that I have paranoia or think people are reading my mind- although sometimes that flashes through my head- it’s that my mannerisms for attracting women are complete crap and I can’t seem to change that no matter how much I try.
Break it down and just do the simple things.
Most human interaction is listening. You listen and you respond. It’s not easy for some but it’s something you can learn. The trick is you practice in real time. You need to react quickly and it’s something you learn by doing.
The more interactions you have with people the better. Have some good relationships with family or friends. If you isolated then, if possible reconnect! It’s baby steps but it’s worth it!
I used to think my main problem was that I didn’t have a good story to tell and had to stay quiet or that I was UNABLE to do it. But when I was on a medication that allowed me to talk to women I found the problem was that i was UNWILLING to do the things I needed to do to be with a woman like take care of her kids and work. The old excuse comes back to my mind that it is an inadequacy but the ugly truth increasingly resonates in my head.
I think meds make you lose some imagination/spark and lose some energy, feel sleepy etc. So yeah it makes it harder to impress a girl.
I used to be more hyped about talking to girls, now it’s just bleh. I think it’s harder to find the one if you’re schizo.
same here me too
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