I’d just be an employee and wouldn’t have any say in operations or anything.
I think I’m going to give it a try and if it’s not something I can keep up with I’ll just have to tell him right away so he doesn’t have to fire me or whatever.
It depends for me. If he’s working for someone else then I wouldn’t work with them for me personally. Say if he’s publishing a book on his own then yes I would work with him.
Everyone I know who has tried this ended up divorced within a few years.
For your specific case I would recommend it even less. You hate being told what to do, and he hates when people don’t listen to him. You both seem to be at your happiest when you can both have a lot of personal freedom. Working for him won’t increase the amount of money coming into the house. It will not give you more independence. It will create a lot of situations where he will have more power in decision-making than you.