Why do people feel they need to get so heated in argument?
My thread about bullying got locked yesterday
I am not taking anyones side, but rather pointing out that threads very quickly descend into petty arguing rather than dealing with the subject matter
Please can we all take a break from hatred and respect the fact we’re all brought here on different journeys together as a community online - enough people hate us, we don’t need it from each other
You can respectfully disagree with each other without it turning personal
I apologize for it being locked as it was an important topic.
I realize that i participated and made comments as the argument started and continued and don’t know how much of my input had to do with it getting locked.
I didnt see your locked thread. But i always try to bear in mind that there are quite alot of people in different stages of their recovery here, some are quite ill. And with the worldwide scope of this site, you simply aint gonna get along with everyone.
I can see why the thread got locked, but as a person subjected to severe bullying as a teenager I can and do empathise with you. Some get over the bullying.They are the relatively lucky ones. For the rest of us it results in fragile self esteem/self worth,insecurity,intense fear of rejection, bouts of feeling totally worthless, paranoia etc that are still there many decades later.
Yeah, it’s unfortunate but it’s unlikely to be the last time. Disagreeing is ok but when it descends into personal attacks as that thread did near the end, we usually shut the threads down. Unfortunately, most of the tools as our disposal aren’t much of a deterrent to this type of behavior. A flag or locking a thread isn’t enough to stop most people from resorting to personal attacks. The most severe deterrent we have is suspending people and a permanent ban is not likely to happen to those except the most egregious offenders.
Does the doctor become the illnes he defeats? Now seriously, that’s a danger always worth considering. I don’t think it happened to me but I see it happening.
I was bullied the first day I went to school and the following year. I told it to my stepfather. He said i should kick back at the bullies, i followed his advice next year, and seriously kicked their xxxx, and was very lonely after that, but i was not bullied anymore.
The worst thing, and one I still regret, is that I bullied a little, fat boy two years after. We called him “Snotty Hans” (his name was “Hans”) his nose was always dripping with snot, and he was horribly lonely. I excluded him from our small circle of friends in the small town I was raised in.
I didnt bully anyone i was a happy child then i got a little unruly with the teachers and should have been disciplined, i then became mentally unwell at 15, I got in a few fights which was not really my fault but could have been avoided i regret those things but i learned my lesson and i think i have made up for my bad moments.
i regret those things but i learned my lesson and i think i have made up for my bad moments.