Somehow we must be able to break away from things that happen in Childhood or early Adulthood but it just seems so difficult to do so.
I am guessing as they say formative years are very important to development.
If people can really understand how this leads to being damaged goods…
For the last 10 years I have been drifting through life, unable to form personal relationships with other people
It just seems like such a waste of life, and I don’t know if I am to blame - in a sense that I use the bullying behaviour and all the violence I experienced to excuse my inability to make new friends…
It’s given me trust issues for sure, I don’t form bonds with others like I should healthily be able to. It bothers me somewhat, it creates a heavier burden on my partner. Things I could turn to for friends, I only have him.
I think you all know,from previous posts, how much bullying has affected my mental well being. It angers and saddens me that in the 47 years since I was last bullied at school very little progress has been made in tackling the issue.
Over the years I’ve come across more than a few articles in which (1) A child had committed suicide due to bullying (2) The school had continually denied it had a bullying problem.
Schools often think more of protecting their reputation than admitting there’s a problem that urgently needs to be faced up to and dealt with.
I was bullied often by my best friend.
He had a peculiar sense of humour and fun.
He obviously was jealous of me.
I rarely reacted. I knew it was his show,
mainly towards himself
I think most people have experienced some degree of bullying at some point in their life. While I think that it should be discouraged and punished by those in authority when seen, I don’t think it’s going anywhere anytime soon. It has likely been around since the dawn of mankind.
When I was about seven years old my brother had this friend who would say, “This kid can beat you up” (He was referring to me.) everywhere we went. Some of those “fights” I felt bad about, because they were totally unjustified. He had another friend who did that to me too. That situation is more common than you might think - older kids getting a younger kid and parading him around and getting him in fights. It is one of the unpleasantries of human nature. Kids bully each other a lot.
I encountered bullying in mental health treatment. It negatively affected my mental health and is still something that pisses me off. The fact that the only route to getting aps is through people who automatically have power over you sets the stage for bullying.
I was bullied fot being weird. In other words, lacking social skills. Because I didn’t have many friends, I didn’t get to develop any social skills at a normal pace, and got weirder over time, which made the bullying worse.
All I learned was to keep my head low and avoid eyecontact.
Even today, 16 years after I quit public school, I feel the effects of my childhood and teen bullying.
Self-doubt, low self-worth, fear of rejection fear of failure…
i was beaten by a few boys in a nearby street, but it wasn’t too bad, another time i was hit on the head with a brick but it was an ‘accident’ lol i was bottled over the head and attacked by 15 so called 'friends and had my belongings stolen, i was tricked into a fight by a few so called ‘friends’ my Sister hit me on the head with a bottle. I have fought bullies.
