2 of them after were all grown up seemed to feel bad they were a bit of a bully to me in younger years… it’s a shame because they hurt me all for what??! To feel bad themselves later on. Other bullies never showed remorse tho.
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I am sure my bullies throughout school became highly successful people. Don’t know who or where they are now.
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The 2 who felt bad weren’t exactly superstars in life. One died of a heroin od a year after we “made up”. The other showed remorse when I saw him at an AA meeting. He’s an addict/alcoholic. Although maybe in recovery still who knows. Maybe he’s doing well.
The 2 who didn’t ever show remorse are very successful in life on the other hand. A lawyer and a businessperson
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They’ve never contacted me to say ‘sorry’.
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Meh! I am over so much thanks to therapy. I will not be going to any class reunions even though with the year of 2022 I have been out of school for 20 years now. The people I am in contact with I am in contact with. No desire to play the my wallet is bigger than yours game.
I am pretty satisfied with the people in my life now anyways.
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I was bullied a lot in school, the worst person being a girl we’ll call J.
I moved away for s few years, but ended up interacting with her a bit in 11th grade. Those interactions were friendly, and one day she told me she felt really crappy about the way she treated me throughout public school.
I tried to console her by saying “it’s ok, you didn’t know what you were doing”, but she responded with “it’s not, and I did.”
I think that shows a lot of character for her to admit that.
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I suppose the guy I made up with at the AA meeting would treat me like a king these days. He was never a bad guy…. Okay he was a big of a punk in younger days lol. But he changed a lot in alcoholic anonymous meetings and recovery from addiction. I bet if I ran into him again it’d be great. He ran into my mom once and my mom said that he said to say hi to me. So that’s a sign of respect.
I love your story btw with J. That really shows growth on her part!!! It’s a good thing to see. See I can forgive people like that way more easily!!!
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i was worse bullied rowin up
i was umilated
It’s not a contest and I was god damn humiliated too.
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just sayin and i know ow it feels jonny
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Two of the guys that bullied/sexually harassed me in high school… ended up committing suicide like 4 or 5 years ago… don’t know why they did it. Not saying they did it because they felt bad, but your post reminded me of them, I had totally forgotten about it.
btw jonny it makes us stroner in life
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■■■■ bullies i stand with the legends. Stand strong and ■■■■■■■ hit them with pies in the face
When I was in my late twenties I ran into a girl who made my life harder at the Christian school.
I wouldn’t call her a bully,
But she made my time there difficult every chance she got.
We chatted for a minute, it was very civil.
The closest to an apology I got was “I know middle school was hard for you, but I guess it is for everyone.”
Whatever.
I did do a lot of apologizing at my ten year reunion.
My best friend and I both did.
We were jerks and said we were sorry,
But felt very little remorse.
I’m sure that girl from Christian school felt the same,
Thus her half assed apology.
At least I pretended to be sincere.
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Sorry I know how it feels. Really tough. Mixed emotions you don’t know whether to feel sad cuz they died, bad for yourself or whatever other emotion comes across you. I also had this feeling with 2 other who ppl. Eventually I made peace and cried for them properly. But for a while you dunno what to think when someone hurt you and later dies etc…
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I tell most people to jog the fuuck on. My girlfriend of course is the most amazing and she is life
Another remorse story is this girl I met at a party. I remembered her as having been a few grades above me in the school I went in from 1st-5th grade.
She was a bit drunk, and told me she had been thinking all night about how bad she felt for the way she and the others treated me.
I told her not to worry and that it was all water under the bridge.
In all honesty, I don’t remember having ever interacted with her.
But bullying takes many forms, icing someone out is also bullying, and I think that’s what she did.
I don’t need bullies to apologise to me for me to move on.
If someone mistreats me, it’s nice to get an acknowledgement that they’re aware what they did was wrong. But my healing does not depend on it.
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anyone wo wants to upset u on social media or in irl is a bully
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You epic Golden Rex 
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