Maybe because men are more visual but there are exceptions - my husband is the most modest man I know and I take a quick glance at hippie types in the local supermarket lol! Naughty me! 
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I look at women more than other men in day to day, like a hot redhead in her mid20’s or 30’s awesome, doesn’t even have to be showing a bunch of skin. My husband points out women to me,he knows my type, he’ll look in public and online, I feel no big deal. Hell I belong to a Facebooknpage called I Love Redheads which is clothed redhead pornstars and models. Hubby likes Dua Lipa(I completely spelled that wrong) and Shakira, etc. We have some like tastes like I love Shakira’s everything, she is a sex symbol. But I’m also a long dark haired Bebe Rexha lover.
The way I heard it expressed was, “Just because you’re on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t look.” It’s still pretty cold, though. Maybe you should circumspectly, but without being needy, let your husband know how you feel when he does that. By now it has probably become a habit, so it will be hard to break him from it.
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I’m divorced. But hey I think if I ever get a bf I’ll try to ignore it bc evidently it’s normal. I mean I don’t do it but I’ve never been normal either.
@crimby. It just makes me feel like “what’s wrong with me that you look at someone else?” Maybe it’s not about me.
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The wife was constantly accusing me of looking at other woman. She was just bloody insecure - i had a baby with her for gods sake! How much commitment did she want!
Not all of us blokes are “players” - some of us actually do wanna settle down (or i did at the time) .
Im scarred now - so will choose to remain forever single, but blimey there are nice blokes out there lol 
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I guess I’m insecure. My dad would be dating someone and come to my house and go on dating websites while his gf wasn’t around. He’s “dating” someone now but I literally saw him “scan” this woman. I mean his eyes went from the top of her head to her feet and back up again. I had half a mind to call his gf and tell her.
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Why do women look at shoes and purses when they have several at home and can’t afford them anyways?
It’s natural to follow what we perceive as beauty. It doesn’t mean you’re not enough or less beautiful, it just means the man is used to you and knows he can look at you whenever he wants
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Oh Bless you for saying that. Just Bless you
Women instantly size up men when they are out and about…they are just more discreet.
Square jaw?
Broad shoulders?
Nice package?
Women see all of this in a blink! 
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You do make a point. Tall with curly hair 
yes sir. Course anybody over 5’2” is tall to me.
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Well, men are going to check out women no matter what. It’s in our nature, but if you’re married you owe it to your wife to not be obvious about it. That’s disrespectful.
I find hard to believe you never admired some good looking guy or checked out some guys physique
Plus, not all married men are great, moral, good guys and pillars of society. Sometimes they look for the remote possibility that something can happen.
Also, if women are going to complain about married men showing too much interest you can partly blame it on yourselves. One little fact that doesn’t get much airplay is that if a woman wants a fling or an affair they often prefer married men.
Hell, even when I’m 70 years old and legally blind nothing is going to stop me from checking out a beautiful woman in a dress. I’m just going to have to say I’m sorry and to offer my apologies-------to absolutely no one! It’s just the way it is.
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Of course I’ve checked out men. I just didn’t do it if I was dating someone or married. I know that’s hard to believe but it’s true. I mean I’ve been tempted by other men while married but I averted my eyes.
And let me tell you I’ve never flirted with a married man ever. I know some women do
But what’s wrong with just looking even if you’re married or dating someone? It’s not cheating, no ones going to fault someone for just briefly looking. I think you’re in the minority here.
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I probably am in the minority. Some of my upbringing was Christian. I’m not trying to get religious but there’s a verse in the Bible that says if you look at someone to lust after them you’ve already committed adultery in your heart. So there you go. That’s why when I was married I never looked at other men. Was I tempted to? Absolutely.
But you folks make some good points
I look at other women all the time. 🤷 I’ve only seen my partner check out another woman once and it didn’t bother me.
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@77nick77. I never meant to use this thread as a format for male bashing. I was just looking for some insight and I got it.
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Both my partner and I watch porn on our own time, but we don’t look at other people when were together. We never watch porn together.
“I mean I’ve been tempted by other men while married but I averted my eyes.”
I have experienced men purposely averting their eyes from me in front of their woman. Those are the good ones but sometimes I get kind of get a grass is greener feeling when they do that. I think damn, she got a good one and also, he’s no fun! I feel flattered when some guy checks me out, even if he just looks at every woman!
A lot of men check out other women while driving. A pretty woman walking or running on the street is enough to cause a traffic accident.
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Is that why they keep telling me my eyes are up here.
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My fiancée does this. But I think she’s cheating on me lol