It’s so rude. When I was married I didn’t look at other dudes but my husband looked at other women and it really pissed me off. Am I not enough? I just don’t understand.
I’m asking bc I saw a married man looking at me today
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It’s evolutionary. Men are hardwired to consistently look for suitable mothers for children. It’s rude now, but they can learn to be discreet.
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That makes sense but it hurts me so badly
Not sure why you are making men out to be the bad guys, women do it all the time.
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Used to bother me until I realized it’s something most men do and only the rude ones make comments. My husband looks, I know, but he chooses me and makes me feel attractive.
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I never looked at men when I was married. I’m not coming down on men completely I posted this hoping to gain some insight
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You’re good and I don’t pull punches all the time!! Sorry about the gawking also interesting comments too about the hardwiring stuff
Women do it as well, it’s not just a guy thing.
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Hmmm. Ok. Idk. Have I been tempted to look at other men when I was with someone? Yes. But I made a choice never to look at another man when I was dating or married. Maybe it’s normal to look. I really don’t know.
It’s human nature to look and even fantasize
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It really hurts me though when I’m dating a dude and he looks at someone else. Why am I not enough? Of course I haven’t dated in a while. I’ll try to keep in mind that it’s normal
Well they should also respect their partner and not make it obvious in front of their partner.
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There are married men who have tried to flirt with me. I don’t like when that happens.
Men are visual when it comes to women, and I think it’s more about pure sex than finding a suitable mother for his children (I actually think women are more concerned about finding a suitable man to have a strong, healthy baby).
There are thousands of strip clubs in the U.S., and 99%+ have naked women dancing for men. What woman is going to pay a $20 cover charge and a two-drink minimum at $12 a drink (of course these numbers are from scientific research) to see men dancing naked? Women are smart: they know that some men will drop their pants for free, or maybe even pay the woman to watch.
Men buy the “dirty” magazines, and men make up at least 95% of porn subscribers.
Men are visual when it comes to women.
I do it, but I don’t try to flirt.
im Staying out of this one.
Too complex…
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My husband and I are both natural flirts.
He looks at other women all the time,
It doesn’t bother me.
It doesn’t even bother me if he flirts with her,
I do the same thing if I find someone attractive.
We’ve known this about each other since the beginning so,
You know,
It’s part of the package deal.
I think it’s perfectly normal to look at other people you find attractive and it’s not meant to hurt the other person.
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I used to look but it always makes me feel like a voyeur or something so I try not to.
My husband does, but he never comments or compares. It can definitely be a blow to one’s self esteem. Just stay positive and work on you. I wish you the best. 
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I almost feel like it’s cheating. Maybe not I guess