My 30s were consumed by the schizo and just trying to survive in an abusive relationship in a city that has been feeding women to these abusers…My 20s were great, self supported, earned Bachelor’s degree, owned own home, a little lonely until I found online dating which worked best in my sorry city. But, I was spending time around someone troubled and eventually it ate me. Later realized, woman had no good intentions toward anyone, someone in that bad of sex abuse situation only serves their abuser – in her case, served up new people. I cracked as the mental care here was taking advantage of this frequent scam if the victim had insurance…I ended up psychotic and meds never helped, but sleep is better taking the stuff. I function okay still hearing a lot of auditory but ignoring it. Then I came across another group of these kind of abusers/users at 40. I’m currently fighting to get these to leave me alone which turned out to be a fake non-profit that was harming people to get financial donations and labor…I was not able to work for a few months as I dealt with more visuals of members of the group, more auditory talking about GAWD/Jesus and much more lewd harassment from strangers who will keep me away from the life/death work I used to do to pay the bills.
I let go of the house where I spent 10 years trying to hang on financially in dying city that is going under and something evil has taken over from the dirty churches and trying to fight off the sex abuse relationship that destroyed many of the women before me. Lady friend said they had been screwed at multiple jobs, unsure why and was just time to move. Lucky to get something out of the discrimination filled and worthlessly light classes, I fled. Only to be f-ed at work, housing, school, mental care, socially, vehicle scam in the next city designed to catch people who left my scam behind. Turned out new city was totally unsafe …
So, I moved around a few more times and discovered women being victimized for taking same job out in country, driven crazy and used for their welfare checks. Cops locked them up in mental hospital for fighting…Lots more thugs running more scams even in smaller towns, country is actually worse. Planned to buy other properties but found out the thug running that area will probably ruin me and stick some guy with me…I’m currently waiting on nicest man in the world, old friend, who ended up in jail for something stupid and troublesome later. Is very hard to keep off all the users as some areas I’ve looked at were ruining women who could pay their own bills and made prostitutes, males even went running after looking at some places that bust too much stuff to even afford it.
Reality, there are so many scams, trying to buy a different place alone may get you screwed. I would almost not even try anything past tax sales…you need to know some states sell you the whole house and others just sell you a loan so you need to do research. You also need to make sure place is empty or you need to be willing to do an eviction, but in small towns this can get you hated and screwed out of there.
You really have to be VERY passive to be okay any longer as you move around.
I get enough disability from my own work record, I can get a very basic apartment toward outside of town and get an entry-level job in 1-2 months. However running into problems with neighbors going psychotic around me, especially the younger ones and they will even drive older workers from apartments as landlord wants to keep the nutty children … Works better to never share walls but it is expensive to rent a detached house in a city. I would NEVER say anything crazy at work or talk about whatever scams you met with or property damage checked out your place while you are at work…You will be greeted by some people who hear the voices and talk crazy to you, if you are seen as a good worker you will be told how to handle local work situations by these psychotic people…But some cities have things segregated so badly, the poor psychotic ones can only work at fast food or drug dealing, never allowed to ever support themselves and you may eventually find yourself victim of discrimination and cast out of the good work if you ever piss off the wrong people.
RV thing has options. Companies like Amazon are hiring RV workers. You can work summer in tourism or state parks…Works nicely if you have disability check…You can also check out temporary jobs and volunteer arrangement and you may eventually find right employment or nice people and wish to work full-time again.
Picking up a relationship reduces suffering for some, especially if you are getting a lot of social harassment while out in public, have been sexually harassed out of your employment or you have a lot of vandals. This is VERY true for female as many get married or shack when they first experience the psychosis as they may never meet anyone okay again, just the men who will play her, beat her or junk her life. The people who used Facebook to go back to the good ones they knew can keep some of the psych symptoms away and have more stable work situations married…Some people will try to pick you up talking about something private to you and this is worth checking out at least once, but some people only meet weird ones this way. These are NEVER worth keeping if the person tries to call you a headcase as this one is probably hearing the voices too.
Things are messed up so you will find discrimination, I can only tell you to have PLAN B available if you find something you want and you are blocked.
I think you really have to narrow down to what YOU WANT! Also keep in mind the compromises you will accept along the way…But, probably biggest thing, enjoy the good people and be open to sharing things with these when opportunities for travel & fellowship become available.
Will will find the thugs, users and monsters, these you can eventually just smell as you walk past something wrong there and even leave without a word when you find abusers or someone making slaves. Leave if you start to see such bad things happen, you don’t want any. I’ve witnessed this start in some communities as the cops have shifted to self-defense instead of people defense, churches have let go of ethics and anything goes in business…Wise old teacher said 20 years ago “this place eventually ruins most who try to stay here. Best investment you can make is a second place to live so you will have another place to go where people already know you once this place trashes you for good.” I just need to mention, if you choose a touristy spot, only advantage is ability to sell the property easily, but some of these places were ruining the weekenders when they finally move there.
Also, be able to handle your own legal rights and policing as the cops move to self-defense (to serve the dirty businessmen) instead of people defense as courts are increasingly only serving defendants who are frequent-abusers and well represented by attorney. Cops are not your friends, they will try to find out if you are on the check in some places and lock you up in psych hospital at your own expense if you complain about busted belongings, thefts or stalking/trespass. Only way to handle this is own very little and move if you experience a prolonged problem…You need to know the scams so you don’t fall into one, as there is no way out using the laws. When you find an abuser making slaves, keep quiet, act dumb and just do not go back – if asked you moved or needed to do a bunch of OT at work so unable to go. If you meet the sick ones, no response to any of the abuse/threats/insults and you my be able to pass by without being harmed…In some communities, you cannot discuss anything in public, but best to NEVER discuss anything negative or emotional in public as it just seems to bring the attention from the wrong ones. Some situations (like you saw something so bad you want to move) you should NEVER discuss with anyone except your spouse before you both decide to make some excuses and move to ‘accept a great job’.
You know, I was told I needed assertiveness training way back in 1990s since I was raised in belligerent situation with unhappy parents…But since my nervous, I find I RARELY use it. I just keep quiet and see what ‘i got there’. The people who require assertive behavior are likely to slit your throat for any reason, better to just mingle past these kind to the stable normals and work there. Craigslist has TONS of jobs and surprisingly less drama and these are the small business owners and not the weirdos…
