Depressed about getting older

I’ll be 28 this year and it suddenly struck me that I haven’t accomplished much of anything since high school. I’m cleaning toilets for a living and still don’t have an education.

The thought also occurred to me how everyone treats you as you get older. It’s like you become invisible the older you get.

Thoughts?

Yeah I’m 37 and totally invisible. If I wasn’t typing here you wouldn’t even know i existed

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I have a baby face although I am 40 so it is fun to have people assuming I am 20~30 years-old young man.

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I’m turning the big 5 0 in a couple weeks. I love it when I’m invisible because I don’t want anybody to see how fat I’ve gotten

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Im 37 too and the nice thing about getting older is your peers are older too so youre less likely to have people do childish or hateful things to you like when you were younger.

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I’m nervous about getting older. Middle age sounds so lame, like second puberty. I won’t mind being an old lady because I see that as an accomplishment with all my issues and just with how hard life is in general but middle age is just going to be rough. I am really hoping that if I find a partner I find him in my 30’s as 30’s is the age I find guys most attractive. (They’re more matured both physically and mentally more likely to want to settle down vs hook up, etc) And I feel it’s harder for people who are middle aged to find a partner as everyone wants young. I’m only 22 now but I feel the clock ticking.

You aren’t too old yet, not even 30. You still have plenty of time to turn things around, I have known people much older than you who went back to school eventually and got careers. Still it may be good to start coming up with a plan for that now if you want that to happen.

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I was at my step-grandson’s birthday yesterday. He’s 10. I’m 71 and I expect to him I seem like an ancient and incomprehensible being.

I remember when I was about your age I got depressed when clerks started calling me “Sir”

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When I was at Alaska Psychiatric Institute I was with 2 other women around my age and one younger Alaskan Native woman…she referred to me as an “Elder!” I was mortified! It’s a very respected title among Natives but, common, I’m 43, not 90! I don’t WANT to be an Elder yet!

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I’m turning 28 this year too. It has been a tough couple of years for me, so I’m looking forward to the next few years/my 30’s. I hear you calm down around that time. I’m also looking forward to finding a partner who is like-minded and wants to settle down (no kids!) & crossing my fingers.

I know I won’t get the same kind of attention from folks, and that does depress me too. I try not to dwell on it though. Only good things to come, I’ve worked really hard on my recovery :sunny:

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28? Your still a kid for crying out loud.
Wait till your my age.
Hang on, you have a lot of life ahead of you.

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Wait till your 30. It only gets better. Well I love my 30/ way more than my 20s

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Hello @catchme.
Seek a promotion.
You can be grateful that you can hold down a job.
In parallel you can seek promotion.
If no promotion opportunities you can seek a different job.
Good luck.

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depends on what really you want to accomplish. A degree is nice if you are only interested in something.
I love having lots of working skills other than a diploma of some sort.

I’ll be 29 soon. I am happy with my achievements as small as they are. Happiness for me is the best achievement.

I like it better to be invisible for most people. I wish I had a few more closer friends who liked me for who I am in real life, who came to visit me without having to call first.

Not sure if you are talking about men, but go out more I guess to meet more people?

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Hi Twang. Is it a good practice to call the immigration officers “Sir” and “Madam” when arriving at airport?

I’m 44 and have the accomplishments and maturity of a 20 year old

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Yes, this whole reality is very depressing. Everyone get older day after day until they die.

Qoheleth masterfully described this situation:

Everything is meaningless. One generation departs and another generation comes, but the world forever stays. When I turned to all the works that my hands had wrought, and to the fruit of the toil for which I had toiled so much, see! all was meaningless and a chase after wind. There is no profit under the sun. The wise person will have no more abiding remembrance than the fool; for in days to come both will have been forgotten.

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I think good memories are worth making, even stupid ones. I think shared moments between loved ones makes this life worth it.

sincerely,
your grandmother

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When I was young, I wanted attention but got only negative attention until that was all I had any capacity for. Now, I want positive attention, but a little goes a long way.

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I feel the same way. I turned 28 this year. I have a Masters Degree in Art History and a BA in English Literature and History of Art and a few Certificates. But I’m on Disability and my Career Prospects, if they exist at all, are not great.

I am going to be 47 next Sunday. Time flies when you are having fun I guess.

I miss my 30s. I would like to go back and be 35 forever. That was my favorite age and 3 years before I got sick. Wish I had a time machine.

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