When you have this illness life just passes you by

I looked at my old degree and saw the date, I’m shocked on how much time has gone. It’s a real struggle when live just passes you by. I’m stuck here and want to move on. Then I did the stupid move and googled my old friends. Most of them are married and have children. They have their education and jobs. We are all old now.

I wish I could do something for myself in order to move on. But I can’t! A tiny amount of stress just aggravates my symptoms. It’s like a curse that just pushes you back to square one.

I don’t want to be negative. But it’s hard!

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Yeah it’s tough but keep busy and find things to do you like. I’m out the other end at 52. Some of my friends are divorced or unemployed or struggling with life.

You’d be surprised how most people struggle with something. Yeah we have the mental illness but you can still live a good life. I know it’s hard but don’t compare because it’s apples and oranges. Yeah I just can’t compare our journeys to most.

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I’m in a never ending fight against negative symptoms and negative thoughts.

I won’t stop. I realize not fighting it will make me worse.

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You are right. I was looking at old photographs and thought how life could have been. Then I started thinking that people seem like they have met their goals. In my imagination they are living life.

I want to start exercising again because I’ve been stuck on the couch for ten years. I just don’t know if it’s possible with the meds, I’m on zyprexa 20mg and it makes me a bit lethargic.

Thank you for the positivity @rogueone!

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Yeah it’s hard sometimes but first thing is to get moving. Start with a small walk. Do it regularly and you’ll surprise yourself but the important thing is to keep active if you can. So hard on our meds for sure but you can make changes to your life and even small ones can make a difference.

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A few years ago I went through my computer and deleted all my life’s work in design and advertising career, even personal artwork.

Feels like what is supposed to be accomplishment is nothing. So hard to express this into words.

Now I am nothing. I lost everything, but I don’t even want to remember those days because so much of it fed my delusions and psychosis.

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I get what you are saying. I want the past to be the past, to forget all the BS I went through. To begin from new and go forward. But then I have this illness. Which makes things difficult. I’m stable on meds as long as I don’t get stressed. Delusions are in check. I don’t believe stupid things anymore.

How are things for you? What do you do i with your time? Are you stable?

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No. not right now. Not at all. They increased my therapy to weekly, and I’ve had med adjustments but considering more.

Same stress is a big issue for me, making my symptoms worse.

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I hope you are able to push forward and make something new.

I’m gonna try once I become stable.

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I’m sorry to hear that. I’m in the same boat, most of us around here are.

Hopefully therapy and a med adjustment will help you!

I didn’t get any therapy when I got ill. I had to do my own research about this illness. You are lucky if you are getting therapy.

Now they just ask me if I’m taking my meds. If I have violent or suicidal thoughts. I say no! Which is true. Then they just write me off. It would be nice to have someone to talk to.

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Ah, the ol’ googling old friends… Been there as well @Speedy, and it is a very tough pill to swallow.

Just remember that people typically post a curated version of their lives for others to see— it’s not the full picture by any means.

I think it’s great that you’re thinking to get back into exercising, as it has some benefits like endorphins and bumping up energy. Have you ever considered wearing like a Fitbit or an Apple Watch or something along those lines? I think a fitness tracker is a really nice investment to help one stay motivated while tracking their activity, whether it’s walking, standing, or gym stuff.

Wishing you well :dizzy:

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That’s true! I really hate social media. It brings a whole new set of problems in our lives. I miss the days when you weren’t aware of what people were doing.

I don’t like electronics when I’m exercising, I get confused by them. My friend gave me a watch gadget thingy. I never used it.

Do you exercise @Schztuna?

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I don’t care for old friends and careers.
Most of them are stupid.

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Forreals. Was much better without all that noise! :sweat_smile: I think social media was cool in the beginning, but it’s since turned into some sort of metaverse where people only post what they want others to see. It’s all very fake, to me anyways.

Ah gotcha :+1:. Defos personal preference, but figured I’d ask anyways! Well if you’re doing cardio, the machines give a decent reading of distance and calories burned, so it’s still a good way of checking progress and stuff.

Not as much as I’d like/probably should :grimacing:. But I do go on walks with my dog throughout the day, so that gets me some steps in as well as some fresh air.

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I went through something similar. In anger and low mood threw away some precious things.

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I don’t understand people who barf out every detail of their lives on social media. My Facebook feed is mostly memes and those are split between Star Trek and cats. I also like to mix things up with atrocious dad jokes. Not that I’m pretending my life is perfect, but it doesn’t need to be shared with everyone.

My Instagram is mostly a photo sketchbook to me. It has my day-to-day snaps. I find it useful to journal my photos and go back and look later to see what I was thinking or how I was seeing at a previous point in time.

I post my fine art photos to Flickr. It’s heavily curated. I generally like to share things that are beautiful or intriguing there as I like art that is uplifting.

I post crap videos to Youtube simply because it is free video storage.

That’s my entire life on social media. Whoooo.

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Yeah i find it sketchy when relatives post so many personal photos/videos of there little kids i dont think its a smart move. Like there kids in a bathtub wtfff just no common sense

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What I have done and that helps me is to let go

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I just got of the phone with a friend who is a social worker about accepting this diagnosis and the life that comes with it. She knows me well and how much i was struggling while working. Its hard seeing friends making big bucks while i have to live a monk life. It is nice being free though.

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