When kids don't do what they're told

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I never know what to do. Mentally, I want to kill them but I can’t do that. I don’t have any patience or any skills to deal with it.

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I don’t want to kill them but I’ve had trouble being an effective disciplinarian with my nieces as well. That’s one of the important jobs of a parent which is the toughest and most important one to do which my brothers have played well. I hate to yell at kids or make them do what they don’t want to do which is one reason I’ve stayed an uncle.

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My kids get spanked…its not hard…just enough to hurt their feelings…I’m always worried about spanking too hard…so they get very wimpy spanks…a stern talking to works most time…

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Spanking is not good for a child’s mental development. You should stop doing that. Never use violence as a way to teach them lessons. It just teaches them violence and fear.

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I remember “Wait 'til your father gets home.” I was afraid of my father.

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I remember giving my toddler daughter 3 light taps on her diaper-covered bum.

I needed therapy for weeks to get over the guilt. The only time I ever laid a hand on one of them.

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I was a beaten child…I assure you a stern talking to does massively more than a spanking I agree…but its not in excess…I never do it in anger…he might get 1a week…on bad weeks…but I understand what you mean…

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My father also used dog training tactics to raise me and my sister…I was summoned from Out side with a whistle…I feel like I’m getting attacked a little on spanking…my great grandma got at me with a switch…but I knew I deserved a punishment she always gave me a hug and told me you can do anything you can get away with…but if you get caught doing something bad…you gotta pay for it…I would never use a switch but I learned my lesson…

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I didn’t mean to rebuke you. Spanking is cultural and learned, and I understand why someone would do it. But it’s just not a good way of teaching children lessons.

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I agree I wasn’t taught punishment well…to say the least…I shall look up alt ways of disicpline…

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You seem like a good parent. I’m glad you’re going to look into this. :slight_smile:

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It’s important to be consistent. Even if you don’t spank, your kids will feel abused if they don’t understand why you are scolding them.

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I just say with my angry voice ’ you’ll get punished’. By punished I mean forbidding the TV, games, tablet and other technological devices. It’s enough to get the job done although I have no idea what if he ignored the threat because I’m such a bad authority.

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…and role model :rolling_eyes:

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at least you don’t hit. I hit that heart by accident. I’m sure you are a much better role model than I ever would have been.

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My dad used to whip my naked butt with a belt, all it did was make me hate him and work harder at pissing him off. Spanking to me is just teaching a child if you don’t get your way hit someone.

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You seem to care a lot, so you will do fine.

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Strongly suggest avoiding young’uns if they cause you that much distress!

I don’t like using violence to solve problems and that’s a bad thing to teach kids. Violence should always be the final resort.

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pixel, I do avoid children.

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